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RE: Psychology Addict # 39 | Need For Approval & External Validation

in #psychology • 6 years ago (edited)

Hello there @snowpea 😊

You can see them in their pajamas at Walmart for example.

There are many things we can conclude based from such 'care-free' people Snowpea. One of them might indeed be 'they couldn't care less'; but, they could also behave that way because of negative feelings. Whether we are more or less preoccupied with what others might think, or say about us depends, in part, on how high or low we rate in the neuroticism dimension of personality.

With regard to your self- esteem depending your accomplishments on Steemit. There is one important thing to keep in mind: in life, we have many identities. We are mums, wives, workers, steemians and so forth. Having said that, it makes sense to think that we have many different categories of self-esteem going on. The important thing here is not to let your low self-esteem, let's say, as a social networker, shutter your self-esteem as a mum.This is a truly important thing to understand for our overall subjective well-being :)

Thank you very much for stopping by and sharing your views on this topic here with us!
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One of them might indeed be 'they couldn't care less'; but, they could also behave that way because of negative feelings.

After thinking about it some more, I suppose even if people don't care about the approval of the community, of acquaintances, someone they may run into at walmart, ect. - they most likely will at least need the approval of their closest loved ones to be truly content.

The important thing here is not to let your low self-esteem, let's say, as a social networker, shutter your self-esteem as a mum.

Thank you for your kind words and for adding perspective! Thing is, my Steemit self-esteem and my mothering self-esteem are not separate spheres. My tendency to spend too much time absorbed in Steemit is what feeds the mom-guilt I have.

Excellent reflection you have done here based on my reply. Thank you :*