Most times we question God's will especially if it doesn't go with our desires or expectations and we might not know when we offend. The woman who lost her son is an example of an ungrateful person, and she would have lost her son completely if not that he asked the Saints for mecy.
It's like the farmer would deny Christ in times of trial in the future, from the sadness in the face of Saint Thomas...
That shows how compatible both of you are, I wish you luck as you make it official.