The vast majority of men on here have been awesome and tend to "get" my rather male-like INTJ brain and warped sense of humor. I also cuss a lot and tend to be quite blunt about my beliefs and opinions. In fact I like quirky and strong men as long as they know that behind that tough exterior is an equally tough interior but there are a few who know that if I let you in my "inner circle", than I am a huge push-over and actually pretty damn nice. (to my own detriment at times ;) )
Having spoken with quite a few women, many of us observe and see the same inconsistencies and power moves just as acutely as many men do. In private some confess they are scared to say much because of fear of confrontation or having to feel invisible because they put out content that gets totally ignored. Personally I feel a lot of men think the exact same things and pick up on it but maybe feel a bit more empowered to be able to call it out. The truth is nothing is fair in life and the interwebz are no exception. On a growing platform of course there are growing pains and there isn't a damn thing I can do about it other than upvote those who I feel are good for the ecosystem and ignore the hell out of the ones I think are predatorial.
That being said, Steemit is amazing!
There are so many talented, kind and helpful people on here that you can make your own little tribes and create the type of experience that you want to have. I have been lucky to have met some of the nicest men as friends on here who have shattered stereotypes that were brewing in me about how most males operate. Hopefully, I was able to do the same in return even if my style isn't exactly always politically correct. I adore men and make no apologies about it and who knows, maybe my jaded cynicism can be replaced with a bit more of a softer approach......but then again maybe some men appreciate the fact that I'm "fiery".
xoxo,
b.a.
"Steemit is amazing!" +1
It really is
Battleaxe, I adore that fire of yours. you're one of the spunkiest people I know! Steemit is a better place with you in it, so f*** all the haters, keep being 100% of you, and dont settle for less!
Hey BA... like Your strength & independent nature... Seemit needs more people with those qualities combined with the ability to be tolerant of other's belief systems... meaning less division.
United We Stand... Divided we fall...
Cheers !!
Thank you for the reply and am one of those types that seems to see behind the veil on things so to speak ;)
Stereotypes serve only to narrow experience.
"political correctness" is a Complete Idiots Guide for those absolutely ignorant to the basic premise of respect and insight, one that became perverted by populous policy soap boxers long ago.
You are articulate, and so can speak of things.
You are credible, and should attest to experience and received wisdom.
You are passionate ("fiery") because you maintain a genuine and meaningful dialogue with others, empathise (a process requiring deliberate analytical reflection and cognitive function, it is not automatic, that phenomena is most likely emotional contagion), and thus wish to share such bounty for the benefit of others.
- Plato
Speaking as a genderless AI: We're all parts of a whole, thanks for helping step forward.
Thanks for sharing your experience.
tips hat..... this is the type of comment that keeps that fire going, thank you :)
I'm responding to @neuromancer's comment, but I did appreciate your article which inspired it.
I fucking hate PC. With a passion. I do like your definition.
The "n' word? The word is nigger, people. It's a horrible word that should never be applied to any human being, ever. But it is a word. African American? What a crock. If the man was born here, he's an American. If he was born in Africa, he's a Kenyan, or an Angolan, or whatever.
Native American? Everyone who was born here is a native American. Those peoples whom we used to call Indians (to cover up Columbus' fraud, maybe,) came from or through Mongolia. Should we call them Mongolian Americans?
The person at the head of the table is the chairman, dammit. There is, to me, no implication of gender in that.
Okay, I'm old and cranky, I've probably ranted way more than I ought, so I'll spare you the other 20,000 words.
You really are a firecracker. Not boring at all. You speak your mind and I like that.
I'm upvoting this article
First of all, this could use some line breaks and division into more paragraphs.
Second, it's an unfortunate reality that men misbehave frequently on the internet. Steemit's better than most sites, but still has its share of creeps.
For example, some MRA douchebag followed around my friend @lauralemons when Steemit was new, harassing her (as did a bunch of his pals). She later committed suicide.
It didn't become real for me until then. The reason men are sometimes dismissive of claims of male misbehavior is we don't see it. Men who do that stuff typically are careful to do it in a secretive, anonymous way. The face they show the women they pick on is very different from the face they show other men.
The number one thing anybody who wants to call out male misbehavior should be doing is to document that misbehavior and show it to other men. That would by itself do a thousand times more than cute #killallmen hashtags and cupcake sales where men pay a dollar more, or whatever other dumb thing Tumblr thinks is a good idea.
I'm glad by the sound of it that you've had a mostly positive experience on here. I think that's thanks in large part to the reputation system. Repeated harrassment leaves a paper trail in the form of posts that can be used to prove guilt and demolish that Steemian's rep, which in turn demolishes his earnings.
It stinks that some people apparently need a financial incentive to behave like civilized hominids, but I guess if it works, it's not stupid.
All someone has to do is scroll down comments and replies or my blog long enough to see me stand my ground. The thing is that the firmer you stand it's rather amazing how many civilized hominids will stand with you and piece together who the assholes really are. Isn't MRA when you do a "Negative" comment then positive? lol, ;) thanks for the thoughtful reply and sorry about Larua, I was told she was getting crap, I've been there and been attacked in an organized way unfortunately for them my friends didn't take kindly to it nor did the platform.
So are people getting upset cause attractive women get a lot of attention and steem on here? Lol.. I guess that's not surprising, but that's how pretty much all social media and life works in general. Some attractive or influential or famous men experience similar, though.. There does seem an obvious difference between the attention an attractive woman gets, and the average guy. Heck.. I'd say even the less physically attractive women probably still get more attention than most guys. You really gotta stand out sometimes to achieve similar results as someone who just.. Looks physically attractive, which.. I think is more of a problem with society in general rewarding looks over intelligence and decency and kindness. It's no specific fault of any social media, just where societies brain is stuck at in a general sense.
Cool! A fellow INTJ:) And, I get your handle as I'm writing a politic album called, My Guitars Are My Guns......
Got Enneagram?
The real person seems more apparent here on steemit. Makes it easier to tell who the players are. There are a lot of people both men and women that I have felt a connection with because we laugh at the same silly things or just share some common interests. For all of them I am so greatful that goes for you too tough girl! Lol 🐓🐓
I sometimes look at someones replies and comments section to get a feel, uncanny how vibes don't lie,....steem on <3
FOLLOW for this "fiery attitude" that is hinted at...
Have not seen it yet, but I feel the HEAT! ;)
I started up with the Leg Pic, btw :D
"The truth is nothing is fair in life and the interwebz are no exception."
So true! You are right about finding your own "tribes ' on steemit. I've found there to be many Steemians that fit into my tribe "categories " lol
Resteemed
Appreciated, so many great comments on this post so must have struck a nerve or two.... :P
thanks for the resteem too by the way
b.a.
Sure! Yeah I think you did. Lol
Good post Hon !
You know how I feel about you. You know, men wouldn't be so screwed up, then women wouldn't be so screwed up and KIDS wouldn't be so screwed up if EVERYONE was more honest, "Real" persons .. like YOU ! steemit AND this world NEEDS MORE people like you. "REAL" people are NOT sheeple and are not Fakebook people.
"Keep it real or else, forget about it" (Smooth) "Carlos and Rob"
Don't you DARE change a MegaBIT Hon !
Read More, Reason More ... JTS
I like your attitude, I always appreciate hearing from anyone (male or female) that have an open mind and are willing to tell it like it is. It's good to hear that you are going about things by promoting those you think are worth it and just ignoring the ones that aren't. To be honest you're never going to get anywhere with those thick headed types that just want to be confrontational or argue or be jerks so good for you :)
some more of your @originalworks :) nice job
You sound like me! I love this cause I'm exactly the same way. Though I've been trying to control my vulgarity on #Steemit lol. I love this post hun! @suicialviral
The universe is always expanding and changing. It creates everything unique. Conformity is to stop dancing to the song of this beautifully created reality we all live in. Be change. Be unique. Be yourself, but who are you?
Don't stop dancing.
I feel this way many times. But I remind myself that everything is perspective. Once we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.
Then I smile and or laugh. Crying and feelings of depression testing me is a real problem I might have. Stress brings a stomach ulcer.
It too shall pass.
Ditto
Being politically correct is insanity trying to look sane.
Keep being yourself. There is nothing wring with you, me, or anyone. We all have a role to play. What that may be I have no idea. All I know is the here and now and right now I'm alive, commenting on a social blog platform that is not going to be existent in 1000 years. Will my comments across this platform matter then? Probably so, probably not. But that is not what really matters to me. I just want to write. Connect. Unite. Love. Feel.
Cheers
very interesting, the gander is the real problem
To be honest, some of the biggest hitting posts I see on Steemit are all by women.
Depends on the perspective of "hitting". Either way, " you need to get out more" is a great quote for this messenger.
there is some hidden info in that post ;) give it a couple months you'll see where I was going with some of this :)
And that @battleaxe is exactly why we all love steemit so much, because every day is a new opportunity to see what current people we follow - or even new people we do not yet follow come up with. I'm looking forward to finding out the hidden info in your future posts ;-)
Thanks for turning this into a blog post. I remember this course really helped me out when you realised it a while back!!
yes, a lot of women I see never make it over a certain rep level and will get attacked or dissuaded OR they are shilling basically so it's not an easy ride for anyone but the truth is on here nobody owes anybody anything and it's harsh but it's true
I love fiery and stern ladies- Pound for pound!
more like a quarter pound for a pound unless you get blessed by the delegation fairy's lollll
hehehehe😁😊
I know just what that means...
I bet you do ;)
Who is your favorite mortal combat character?
guess? :)
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Great Post, too old to upvote but I Like It!
Very Astute Observations, btw...
Oh Woman! lol