As holidays approach there is a joyful panic in the air as everybody is agitated. I find it interesting to observe and I can't help but wonder: why is this maddening race happening? Why during Christmas people turn on a switch and become buzzing bees, like the end of the world is coming?
I am sorry if I sound like a Grinch, but one has to ponder why all the fuss. As I finished my walk in the woods, the utter silence fell nice on my shoulders. The houses are decorated with small lights. Some of them. Are those who do not adorn their house for the holidays a Grinch? Are they lonely? Are they sad? Or they simply do not care?
We have a full year to live our life. Every single day is a new opportunity. I can't help but wonder why we should not give each other gifts throughout the year? What stops you from decorating your house with lights whenever you choose? What if you would indulge and eat the best food regularly? I feel that many people cut their lifestyle in half most of the times and when holidays come they finally allow themselves to splurge on goodies. Is this a mindset of scarcity or abundance? Are we celebrating the end of the year by creating an illusion?
I think of those who never felt truly joyful on holidays. Those like me, who do not understand the concept behind the conglomerate of decorations and the piles of food. The consumerism created by this event.I feel that many people feel the same but are too afraid to say it because they would look like such a Grinch. When the family is gathering around the table, how many things are left unsaid? How many families cover their wounds with food, decorated trees and loud TV? One might say: let's forget about the quarrels for one day and reunite. But isn't this a false band aid ? What happens with those relationships throughout the year? Healing can't be done 1 week per year, pretending to hide everything ( under the Christmas tree).
What I find to be sad is that people run all year long from themselves in numerous ways. They work too much, drink too much, eat too much, play too much. We are a society of the extremes. But we choose to feel so little! The art of conversation, the kind of "I take your hand, you take mine and we share a feeling" kind of talk is long gone. A friend can give you a like on your picture and never talk to your soul. A parent can cook you mountains of food and yet never realize and heal the wounds he created in your heart. A brother or a sister might give you a call or a random gift while the true conversation you might be wanting with them never happens. And this is happening while we all decorate Christmas trees like mad men. What if we would rush to decorate someone's heart the way we adorn our houses? What if we would choose to do this all year, not only at the end of it? What I'm trying to say is that holidays seem to transform in a show, in a putting on a spectacle . The best adorned house so all neighbours would see. The best family pictures so everybody would think that we are happy. The most expensive gifts so we would feel better for the 99% of the times when we screwed up. 1% doesn't heal a heart, it cuts it more deeply.
The irony behind the holidays is that what people are running for is inner peace and somehow they fail to get it. What a heart wants is love and peace. And you can't fool your soul with lavish decorations and fancy gifts. Your soul craves authenticity and belonging. The real deal. So while I admire the beautiful show people put on now, I can't help but wonder how sad are many of them. I realize that even if I decide not to make a Christmas tree this year that I feel more peaceful than all previous years. I am single but I feel good. It is worse to go through holidays being "alone together" or in dysfunctional relationships. I know that at this very moment when I write this many women and men go to sleep crying on the inside because they are unhappy. The house is adorned but their soul is in the dark. You see, I never thought that Christmas is about gifts and big family dinners where everybody hides what they feel. I always thought that Christmas is about the way you feel inside : are you happy ? Are you peaceful? Are you loved? Do you love yourself? When you sleep at night and the clock ticks past 12 and 2022 knocks on your door, are you genuinely looking forward to it or are you as confused as you were in 2021?
I'm aware that the majority of people would not go so deep on the matter. Doing introspection and analysing the way we evolve as a society is not on the Xmas shopping list. But it is the most important thing of the whole year! Our personal evolution as human individuals. I remember when I met years ago a woman who was of a different religion than mine and I can still have the mental memory of my reaction when she told me that they do not celebrate Christmas, that for them is a regular normal day. At that time I judged . This time....I understand. Maybe the whole point of the Christmas tree is for us to comprehend that our roots spread deeper than we think. That what we should adorn and celebrate is inside. It is the soul, the tree of our life which sits too much in the dark because we fail to look at what truly matters. I surely hope that this Christmas people will take a look inside as well and choose to put a light down there...for many it has been dark for far too long.
December is always the best month in all the months we have, this Christmas i can smell lots of joy
Hi! For sure December is a month which has been associated with plenty of joy. I think that we can allow ourselves to experience this state of bliss every month, not only now.
Some thing I love so much...first what got my attention was the cool dark photos then the story, so cool and well said....nice one
Hello! Thank you for appreciating my pictures, I just took phone snapshots as I felt they were what the article needed and I also love pictures more on the dark side. Have a lovely day!🤗
Well said.
I used to hate Christmas because all I could see was the commercial consumerism aspects of it. It's growing on me now though since I've realized you can make it whatever you want it to be. We stopped giving gifts in my family and started playing games on Christmas as a way of spending time together and enjoying each other's company. My wife and I started only a tradition of buying each other only pajamas for Christmas and then reading books on Christmas day. I'm starting to like the tradition and nostalgia of Christmas and the festive celebration of it all. That being said I don't think that lights and decorations are necessary and a person should celebrate or not, however they choose to give the day meaning. Self Introspection, sharing thoughts and feelings with others - those are great ways to spend the day.
I'm happy to see that I'm not the only one who feels like this. I like how you organized the holidays around communication and meaningful interactions. Playing games, talking and spending quality time together in comfy pajamas....awww this is totally my thing and more people would feel loved if they would do this instead of running around like crazy.
I dislike the consumerism around this time of the year. Gift giving becomes a bulk shopping. I think that we should offer our loved ones a piece of our heart instead of dropping money on things we think they want.
I also like what you said about sharing our feelings. Holidays could be a great way of healing what happened throughout the year through communication. The free days can allow anybody to sit calmly and really really talk. How wonderful would that be, how many souls would feel love and freedom again...
Maybe in time more people will realize this and start doing Xmas introspection and give away what everybody really wants: genuine love and caring
Thanks so much for reading and sharing your thoughts🤗
Gout is the main reason I can only indulge once a year.
Oh I suppose you say this with regret, there is nothing wrong in indulging as long as you also feed your soul this time of the year🤗
Yes. I can no longer eat lobster, shrimp, scallops, steak, red meat, or drink wine, beer or any kind of alcohol. All my favourite things in the whole entire world. If I eat any of these things God is gonna cut me down … I guess I can get some pills.
These are some serious restrictions. For how long have you changed your lifestyle? I suppose that it is hard at the beginning to get used to the new diet.
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But ..but...relax and enjoy the walk, this dark sky also looks cool. Soon is sun out and new days starts .
And we can make something new food 😉😉 good food makes mind strong and puts as smile lot. ☺👌👌🥃
Thanks! Good food always cheers anybody. But the power of the mind is the best cheerleader. And love. Love can heal anything
I appreciate that you have read this🤗
you're welcome :)
Thanks for touching some key points about Christmas and sharing your thoughts. I like to walk and think or walk and talk. It looks like you do also.
I know the post office is slow but I kind of wish Christmas cards and letter writing were a thing again not just once a year.
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I like handwritten stuff too. I have made a habit of sending one of my best friends who lives in a different town a handwritten Xmas card every year. It feels more personal. I also love to receive.
Do you have a link toward that community?
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