To love is to take care of yourself. It is to understand that self-love is the main love that one should have.
It is essential to understand that self-esteem is the basis of our mental and emotional health.
We often allow others to hurt us, making us feel bad about ourselves. Why? Because we give it so much power over our self-esteem, that we end up believing that we are everything bad, evil, bad people, that they tell us we are. 🙄
All this has to do with our beliefs, values and life experiences. If you grew up hearing that you were a good-for-nothing, most likely you will create a good-for-nothing and not only that, you will also act like a good-for-nothing, even if you have great potential and intelligence. Do you see that?
Given this, it's time to take charge. Work on our self-esteem and always remember what for me is a basic norm to always keep in mind:
I don't let myself be fucked by anyone!
I don't allow anyone to treat me badly, belittle me or make me feel inferior. I don't let anyone steal my joy, my confidence or my self-love.
And to write my own story there is nothing more powerful than to keep believing in myself because when I do I know well who I am and where I am going with my own life. It is essential to prioritize and always have me as my first choice.
Choosing me every day is the most sensible thing.
At first it may not give me peace, you may feel selfish, but in the end I understand that it was the best thing I could do. Time always gives us the reason.
When we understand that self-esteem is the basis of our personality and it is from there that we link with the rest of our world, then we go for it and we manage to truly connect with ourselves.
My reflection today is that choosing from my personal criteria is fundamental.
So, who do I choose today? The answer should be simple: to me.
I must never forget that the most important decision is the one I make with myself and at the end of the road only I write my story. Without a doubt, what is external to me can be included, but my well-being depends on the decisions I make daily, for me and for me. So if possible, I try to make sure that nothing and no one makes me forget that I am the only one who is the protagonist of my life.
The truth of what I'm writing is that this is what being yourself is all about.
I also think that everyone has a perspective and a vision of seeing life and if that vision that I have gives me happiness I feel good with it and this should be enough and what others want, say or opinion is a matter for others not mine.
To love yourself is even to embrace those aspects of yourself that are not kind.
There are many ways of looking at our potential and it is through self-esteem, NOT always through problems. My self-esteem is real and is more subject to who I am as a human being, to how I look in my physical appearance. Do you think that your self-esteem is to live better? Let's talk in comments.
Janitze.🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
Translation with |DeepL
Self-esteem is important, it gives us every reason to live a happy life.
While we may lack confidence sometimes, which is normal, I've gone through that a lot. It is important to love ourselves just the way we are (that doesn't prevent anyone from learning and growing).
It was a nice read. Thanks for sharing!
Let's make this reflection come to many. Thank you for your kindness @phyna