Because it was 11th-day death ceremony
When we go to marriage or other grand celebrations, she usually wears some gorgeous outfit along with gold jewelries, but this was the final dinner as part of the 11th day ritual of my friend's father-in-law, about which I mentioned in this post. Usually the occasion sets our mode, and we are a bit conservative and traditional in this matter and not the "wear whatever you want" type. I usually don't wear any ornaments and kept them long back, but here many gents love to wear gold chains, matching as a statement piece to complement even a formal outfit. For me decent clothing is the answer to all occasion, after all who looks at us, when the lady shines !!! Since this was a tribute ceremony, she decided to wear a simple traditional saree and that even did not go unnoticed - wow, the saree is simply elegant - from where did you get this ?
I laugh when I hear these types of conversations - he brought it for me from Kolkata. Ok, please ask him to bring one for me, when he goes next time....Come on, he usually don't go there....
And our boy went a step further - full black as a symbolism of mourning.
Interestingly my friend's wife was wearing a traditional but bright outfit along with ornaments and she justified it when I asked - Dad always wanted to see me happy, and as long as it's decent, I am comfortable. He departed in a very peaceful way - let's give him a tribute happily - hmm, makes sense !!
A memorable moment that will be long remembered by our families - this is the only occasion on which the elder son shaves his head in his entire lifetime - in the demise of father. This restriction is only on the elder son, if there are others, they can do whatever they like - our traditions are so powerful to convey the message - people can know from only this.
So this ended the mourning period which is believed to help the soul of the departed attain peace and find a new body.
They arranged a grand dinner for the final goodbye, fish and prawn being the allowed non-veg items in these functions.
My daughter and my friend's daughter met after a long time and became good friends - again simple traditional outfit is what we recommend to kids, for these kind of rituals.
Time flew by very quickly with excellent food and good company - by the time we decided to see off, it was past midnight. We came back with a promise to meet soon again - we have a very long association and together we even tried to do a start up 12 years back - but then destiny decides the final path.
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Your son has become so tall and it looks like he's adding an inch taller in almost every picture.
Yes, now he is almost near me, just an inch behind.
In two to three maybe he might just be taller than you are.
Let's see, as he is already 18, max to max two years to increase his height.
It’s touching how the 11th-day ritual was observed with such grace and tradition. It is also awesome to see how everyone dressed respectfully for the occasion. I think each party determines what people should wear. To me, I like it simple when it comes to clothing for the reason best known to me.
Sober and simple dress is most of the times the best choice, what is inside us matters and what we bring to others, not how we show off
This might have been a sad moment for the family but still a beautiful one because it brings more bond into the family and in times like this, everyone will actually check on each other
I hope you all stay strong
Simply, as my friend says, a simple outfit is the best choice for those moments of mourning. And as for the daughter, her father, from where he is, is happy seeing how his daughter strives to fulfill his will.
We see people who live good and simple lives succeeding in this world, who always want to help other people.
I think the best tribute to the deceased is to fulfill his wishes and, well, after 11 days, close with that dinner for the family as well as close friends. This is the custom of your culture.
I didn't know about the shaving of the head. Interesting.
You all look really nice for such an occasion. You are right... The woman always look amazing!
May the soul of the departed continue to rest in peace and I really love your wife outfit. You look great too and it is good to attend funerals with native attires.
The best way to actually dress in this time is dressing simple
I’m glad the 11th day ritual went well
Simple, classy and emotional
She really looks so beautiful, without too much ornaments.
I was struck by this tradition that the eldest son of the deceased would have to shave his head. Could you explain a little what that means so I understand?
Un gran saludo
oh man you son is grown up
he is big man now.