Have you ever noticed that the Universe provides you with everything that you need exactly when you need it or when you are ready for it? I have always said that I believe that everything happens for a reason but I'm not sure I took it seriously until just recently. But, the more time that passes in my life, the more I understand how true it is that we are provided everything we need exactly when we need it.
Yesterday afternoon the most extraordinary thing happened in my life that I cannot really even fathom that it happened even now. But I should explain something briefly before explaining what actually went down yesterday.
My ex husband cheated on me four years ago with a woman that he worked with and then chose to move in with her, leaving me with the house and all associated costs of owning a house even though he had been the primary breadwinner in the marriage.
Life was hard for me at first and I was bitter and resentful of him and his new love for the first two years or so. Then, one day I woke up and realized that I hadn't thought of either of them in quite some time. It was then that I started to heal from the past and distance myself from everything that had happened.
Surprising Twist of Fate
I have decided to move finally from our marital home and go off and pursue my dreams so I have started to downsize my possessions the past couple of weeks. During this process, I found a ring that had held tremendous sentimental value to my ex husband in a jewelry box in the back of my closet. I had totally forgotten about the ring before I opened the box but was faced with a difficult decision when I saw the ring.
Do I give him back the ring?
Do I just get rid of the ring?
Or just put it back in the jewelry box and forget about it?
The problem for me was that my ex and I had blocked each other on every social media platform and on our cell phones. There was no way to contact him so I reached out to a mutual friend of ours that contacted my ex for me. He did want the ring back so he came to the house yesterday to get it from me.
I Was Wrong
I was anxious about him coming to the house because I hadn't seen him in so long and we had parted on terrible terms. But, he was very courteous and we spent forty five minutes talking about life and what happened during the divorce.
And then it happened....!!
HE ACTUALLY APOLOGIZED TO ME!!
I wasn't expecting it and I swear my jaw hit the floor when he blurted out the apology and then asked for my forgiveness. He then told me that he had felt terrible for the way he treated me for years now but didn't reach out to me because he didn't think I wanted to hear from him.
The Universe provided an apology from him exactly when I needed it. I'm at the point in my life now where I am fully ready to move on with my life especially since I am moving out of this house. This is the last thing left of my marriage and by letting it go I am fully letting go of the past.
After his apology, I was able to tell him that I have forgiven him and he had this look of relief on his face that I don't think I have ever seen on him before. He has changed the past few years but so have I. I have learned that holding onto people that don't want to be in your life anymore is futile and only causes me heartache.
Instead, I have learned to love those that are in my life and to let go of those that don't want to be part of my life. I have released my attachments to everything in life and just value what I do have while I have it. As life goes on, we change so the people, places, and things in our lives also change. If we cling tightly to what we have in our lives then we risk not leaving room in our lives for bigger and better blessings to enter.
So, I have learned a lot since my ex husband walked away and I believe that I have become a much stronger woman. I thanked him for leaving and wished him well in his life, which I think surprised the both of us. I realized that I do truly want him to be happy and to receive all of the blessings that his life is meant to have. I invited him and his fiance to attend church with me this upcoming Sunday and I asked him to apologize to her for me since she has stated clearly her dislike of me and would never accept a phone call or meeting from me so I could apologize to her myself.
Forgiveness Is For Me
I chose to forgive them both years ago but I don't think I ever consciously made myself aware of this fact. I couldn't tell you exactly when I forgave them or what the circumstances were behind choosing to forgive them. I think enough time has passed now that I no longer think of them or what happened so forgiveness was easy.
The other factor involved in my forgiving them is that I have crafted a life for myself that I have always wanted. I write for a living, am moving somewhere I have always wanted to live, and have been able to travel wherever I want, whenever I want. I wouldn't have had the opportunity to do this things if I had stayed married because my ex husband was not the type to take any sort of risk.
I would love to hear your thoughts on how the Universe has provided for you when you needed something! Have you ever had a situation like this happen to you? I would love to hear about it!
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