It seems a lot of people have handled this situation poorly, on both sides. Myself included, small as my part was. @honeyscribes recent post is quite mature, and acknowledges her own responsibility. Duplicity on this platform is going to result in trouble even if the intentions were good. You don't seem to acknowledge your own part in this though, and lay the blame entirely on other people. @bacchist and @ats-david had legitimate concerns and were highlighting duplicitous behaviour, even if they got the motivations and intent wrong, but you don't seem to acknowledge their side of this either.
There's a lot of bad blood as a result of this incident. It would be best to bury the hatchet. As a community we need to learn how best to approach perceived abuse, learn the boundaries of pseudonymity etc, and move on from damaging incidents like this without escalating them to further conflict.