I'd like to say I understand where you are at in regards to your daughter, but I never had kids, so I honestly do not. I know in time these things either work our or just stay touchy for awhile, she is 12 going on 13, the time of teenage angst stuff. She and you will find a balance. Enjoy the weather, relax a little bit, and try not to let it tear you apart, that I know will not help, it never does and yet it is the hardest thing to not do.
It will lead to anger, I remember Brian talking about needing help to dress not to long ago, I had that issue, I know what it is like to be a 40 something year old and not be able to put on your own shirt, I know the anger and the frustration from that, I know feeling like a helpless two year old at age 44. I grew past that a little bit, still 15 years later, I still get angry when my shoulders act up and I can not get the shirt or jacket on without help.
Remember the past, embrace the present and look forward to the future, things do work out, you may not totally get over the frustration and the anger at the situation, but it will get easier to deal with as time passes.
Thanks @bashadow, I try to relax and enjoy the sun each day. Being incapacitated as far as not being able to dress yourself sounds really frustrating, and I guess my 'problem' is easier to solve than that.
Cheers.