You are confusing "government", a bunch of thugs who claim a monopoly on violence over a given territory, with "society". Government is not a positive force who provides services people want or need, including protection, or infrastructure. There are many people and companies providing such services in free market already. A monopoly on initiation of violence is not a necessary condition for neither roads, nor security (police/military), nor conflict resolution.
Most developed and safe and secure countries are not the ones with biggest governments (compared to GDP of whole nation) but the biggest free markets. Free markets create innovation, technology, products and services people want and need by using the limited resources most effectively. Government is not a productive force for the benefit of society. At all.
My question to you is: If you had a choice between being born in either South or North Korea, would you like to be born in North or South Korea? And why?