You don't have to adhere to what other ancaps believe just because you also consider yourself an ancap. We have many differing views and the truth is that that has nothing to do with anarchism. Our ideology simply is: don't hurt and don't steal. The rest is personal preference.
As for finding friends, I wouldn't just look for people who only share political views with you. Just as with political opinions, our interests vary greatly. Just find friends who you get along with. :)