I have always not been a perfectionist, and have found fault in it. Either extreme is not good. I used to feel everything I did was mediocre, but didn't have the drive to do better, and would have liked to be an over-achiever. Now that I have a husband and a son that are perfectionists, and it takes forever for them to accomplish anything, I see the importance of balance.
The physiology of us plays a big role in how we feel and act as well. Hormones definitely have a bit of a hand in how much interest I have in effort, depending on the time of the month. The first half being so much more enthusiastic. I am taking a leap and assuming you are a woman :)
That's interesting perspective to have especially it's relation to hormones. I agree with you, it often plays role as well. Your son and husband are lucky, I don't have someone to remind me when I am being perfectionist. I wonder what are the cause of their perfectionism. Mine was because some people in my life put me on pedestal since I was a little and expected to never make mistakes at all.
The pedestal perfectionist seems like the most common one. I think there is a genetic predisposition to that personality type for some folks. My husband never had any stringent expectations put on him, he has just always been this way. I guess we all lean a certain way and need to correct it with free will.
I thought it was just environmental but that's something new! do you have tips to lessen perfectionism behavior? it sucks being stuck in the same loop while I know, if I just execute my ideas, great things might come, either lesson or rewards.
I am definitely still trying to figure it out too. Mainly I am just trying to instill in my son (who is only 5) in subtle ways that we cannot control most things in life. That is how I see perfectionism - as a control issue. Obsessional OCD runs in my family, which is definitely a thought process revolving around fearing the inability to control/protect what you most love. The only solution is to accept that nothing can be controlled 100 percent. The most important thing I have learned about it all is that we choose how we react, and largely how we feel. Sorry, not very helpful, but you are clearly a good thinker so I am sure you will break the cycle :)
That's actually very helpful. I wish the best for your son, he'd sure grow up just fine :)