Put Down Good Things

[heffpoint]

This is very empowering. Something the lady said, you know, a lot of us get inspired to add goodness when we hear other people put down good things.

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And so I don't know who said it was probably about an hour ago, but I just wrote this down. We want to validate a person's emotional position. And this comes from just wanting to believe the best in others.

So, you know, speaking confidently and calmly and persuasively. This is just a technique. I know it's going to sound a little bit psychological, but just tell the person, wow, it sounds like, you know, where you're at currently and just validate their emotion.

Just tell them how they're feeling, which is so weird because I'm in the field of persuasion. I trained sales reps to go out in the field and talk to high ticket business owners. And it's amazing how many people just operate in emotion.

And Mr. Tim is saying that, you know, what I'm trying to do is get the intellect engaged, right? So they're not so hyper-emotional, but nevertheless, it is very validating. It's almost like, so I had a friend named Eric and he recently passed on and we were reflecting about just what made him so unique and valid in life. And he had such a special way of helping people to self-reflect in a way that was not self-condemning.

All he was doing was providing, like he would help you define where you're at in life and ask you, are you comfortable? Do you like where you're at? How does it feel? You know? And then we would be like, no, I want to change. And he would make it, he would make it feel like it was our choice. You know, like we actually came up with the idea instead of telling somebody, anyway, I know we're getting kind of deep in the weeds, better stick to what I wrote down here.

So I just wrote down validate their emotional position, especially what it feels like they're coming on strong, because a lot of times people don't want to stay where they're at. And so we don't want to condemn them. And then I like to ask for permission.

So after I validate their, not their opinion, but validate their emotional condition, I say, are you asking, you know, that'd be such a privilege. If you're asking me for permission to assist you in validating your current, I keep saying the word position, I don't like the word argument. Did you want some help in that area? I have a couple ideas, but I just want to know if you're willing to hear me out.

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