They Will Take What You Say

[jabarilex]

Not that she hasn't, but I haven't personally seen or heard anything. And that's just her saying, you know, strategically for her. What's the benefit? What does it change? People feel the way they feel and they will take what you say and try to use it against you anyway.

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So we have to be wise with that. Now, when you choose to do it and respond that way, when you choose to attack or retaliate, because remember, even if you simply said some harsh things or some things that were very sharp and piercing and you never raised a hand or laid a finger on the individual, people tend to characterize the verbal assaults almost as bad as the physical assaults. And they will go back and say, oh, man, he attacked her or she attacked him based on the words you said.

Now, would you potentially risk in doing that? And this is why I want you to really keep in mind that you don't want to get in the habit of retaliating and attacking people, especially in public, because it can damage your professional reputation. Someone sees everything you do. Someone is always watching.

So be aware of that, how you can damage your professional reputation. It will escalate conflicts that could have been easily resolved in private if you were just taking the time to consider what the context was, to consider what some of the potential outcomes are that you could have allowed to happen if you chose to be a confident and effective communicator, because it takes confidence to be able to listen to someone have something negative to say about you or something critical and not respond in time with a jab, how we can so easily and so quickly do. There are some quick-witted people with some very sharp tongues out there that as soon as they hear something they don't like, there's an immediate reaction or retaliation to what's being said.

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