I think I've been a victim of circumstances like this before. And I know that one of the reasons that put me in a space of attack or retaliating when I was well, where I should have given a strategic response was maybe to prove myself. Because many people think that if you are soft spoken or if you look a certain way, then they can, you know, like walk on you, dump on you anything.
SourceAnd sometimes instead of thinking about the future, about the impact of everything, you end up, you know, thinking that you are a party when you can stand up on your own. And then you end up messing up everything even more. And then at the end of the day, you feel even worse.
So, yes, I am an advocate of the pause. See, I keep referring to Jesus story when they were asking him what he would do in the case where they found a woman permitting adultery. And they put out the law.
And guess what he did? He just kept writing it in the sand. And he didn't listen to anything they were saying. I think that was the pause moment for him because he could have rushed into to judge or say things or say, go ahead and stone her to death.
But he practiced the pause. And in the pausing, he got a better response and said, guys, if you've never done this, be the one to cast the first stone. And then everyone walked away.
See how the pause saved a very huge, you know, it saved a huge mess. And then eventually he stayed with the woman and said, I don't judge you either. So the pause, the pause, the pause, I must say, I'm still a work in progress when it comes to that.