The times where we may confuse aggression with assertiveness, just because you're being assertive doesn't mean you have to be aggressive and being aggressive doesn't necessarily indicate assertiveness in the sense that assertiveness should be used.
SourceBeing assertive means that you're willing to take the steps, you're willing to push through a little bit of resistance or adversity and that you aren't easily deterred.
But then being aggressive means there's a level of hostility that comes with that. So you can assert yourself without being aggressive. And sometimes people will confuse aggression with assertiveness.
And we want to be careful with that. And that's where understanding what the words mean and being aware of what we're doing and why we're doing it is so important. And then there's the conditioning from being on social media.
Social media essentially rules the world now. And there are so many learned behaviors. When you see someone post something on social media, they question someone's intelligence, integrity.
They say something hostile and you just see this long line of attacks and retaliation that follow the initial comment. And in my mind, I'm just thinking, why, why, why, why, why, why? Please, let's take a moment to stop and think and realize that we don't have to respond to these things. Let them go.
Don't don't get into a fight that you can't win anyway, because their intention is to upset you and frustrate you or embarrass you or whatever else they could be trying to do. And retaliating doesn't change the way they feel. And it doesn't change the situation that has already happened.
And I really admire the celebrities. Beyonce is one that for me personally, all of the comments and things that people have said about her online and in the media, in the news or wherever, I can't say that I've seen one single response that she's given to anything that anyone has said about her. That's just me personally.