And there's a couple of things. So let me just kind of like how you mentioned facial expression. There could be some folks in the audience that's like myself, where your energy is felt.
SourceAnd so when my energy changes in the room, people recognize that versus my facial expression. And so even recently, I was in a conversation where I kept the facial expression with a smile. But the energy, my energy changed and someone called it out like, Heather, you're quiet, Heather, your energy.
And so I have to be mindful of my energy shift more than my face. And the other thing is there's actually two, at least if I'm and there's probably more, but I'm thinking of two layers to a response. And one is like, are we responding due to a label? So like someone says something and are we is it a firm how we feel or does it not? And so if it affirms, especially negatively, that'll change how you respond.
So an example is if someone like I used to coach baseball, I'm really great at hitting even still to this day. So someone's like, you're terrible. You couldn't hit a ball.
Great. I love Davis's perspective. I would like to put something right, which is a little bit different from the pause.
They call him Bishop Jake. Have you ever heard of him? And he asked him, how do you stay steady in the storm? And what Jake said was so it just shocked me. And what he said was the reward for success is attack.
You try it. I'd be like, OK, like it wouldn't faze me. But if someone said something to me that I actually felt negative about myself, then I would respond differently.
I might respond with sadness or it depends on what they say. And so you're.