I love this post so much. You are so self-aware LB. so much is determined by the stories we tell ourselves, who we identify as, etc. i'm so glad you brought this point, that we can change our gears and our stories as to how we want to be going forward.
you are a very loving and empathetic person. I can understand how you were in the predicament… but a black hole is a black hole. 👈🏽 That is such an excellent point by the way… You don't know at the beginning of a friendship who's going to be the black hole , but after a while it becomes apparent even when we don't want to believe it. If We keep Feeding it, it's a bottomless pit of darkness. Thank you for helping me see this with this post… I have a few relationships I should probably reevaluate as well