Great advice, especially in the hyper-individualistic age we live in. So many of today’s ( especially tech centric ones) self help guides for men really do treat the rest of the world as NPCs in your own personal RPG. That gamification may get results sometimes for the individual, but probably short changes many more , while fueling social isolation,. mistrust and mental illness. Connection with others that are deep, meaningful and real are consistently present in those who live to old age ( and who remain active and fit physically and mentally) across cultures. We are social animals and we hurt ourselves if we forget that.
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What frustrates me about the U.S. at least is that the way we’ve built our infrastructure forces that isolation.
We bounce between work and our homes buried in the middle of the suburbs.
We basically have no interaction with people outside work except maybe in checkout lines with cashiers unless we make a special effort to go to some meetup group or out with friends.
No wonder there’s a loneliness epidemic. No wonder we’re so politically divided and hostile.Our infrastructure practically guarantees that we stay in our echo chambers and never hear other perspectives in person. We end up dehumanizing people because we only read their opinions in angry social media posts.
Compare that to European countries that have neighborhood restaurants where people can hang out with others in their community just a quick walk from home. Or multi family homes built around a common play area so kids can play together instead of depending on their parents to schedule play dates.
We’ve made this a miserable place to live.