These past few weeks have been extremely trying for me personally because one I graduated college a month ago, I moved back in with my parents after not living with them for 6 years, and I also have dealt with many people whom do not agree with some of my lifestyle choices. When put in this position in life I have come to learn that sometimes it is best to simply not care what other people say and how they operate because people change like the weather. Someone might behave a certain way someday and then the next thing you know they are acting completely different the next day. There is no telling what that person has been going through and like most things in life energy transfers if you allow it. Because in reality people need to take responsibility for their own lives, meaning take responsibility for your actions, your emotions, and definitely take control of your own life, what others say should not effect you unless YOU personally allow it to effect you. Now i am not saying completely stop caring about what others say because constructive criticism and actions meant to uplift you are all positive manners. I am stating that if you care too much what others think it will drive you crazy not to mention there are a thousand better ways to spend that time then thinking about how someone acted towards you, or if someone likes you or not. There are plenty of reasons why you shouldn't care what others think and all of them point in the direction to self reliance and self care
One major reason to stop caring what others think about you is because once you realize that you cannot please everybody in the entire world the sooner you will learn life is not about pleasing everybody. Everybody in the world is different within their taste and no two people are the same so begin to remove that thought out of your mind that it is impossible to please everyone. Lets also keep in mind that the people who have the most to say about you most of the time don't truly really know whom you are. Like do I even know you? So never take it to heart because most of the time, not only do they not know whom you are but often they don't even know who themselves are. They are constantly changing depending on the day or the atmosphere, don't give people that power to affect how you operate. Finally everybody has something to say about you right? The best course of action is to do nothing be nothing and say nothing. When people do things as such this they are trying to throw you off focus on where you need to go. Keep in mind that people whom actually and genuinely love you come from a loving place, not only that but those people uplift you and are worthy of your attention.
Some more reasons why to stop caring so much what people say is because when it boils down to it, guess what? IT IS NOT THAT PERSONAL, YOU WILL GET OVER IT EVENTUALLY. People whom are not doing what they love and have a low appreciation for aspects of life tend to knock others down whom are. They see you happy and full of bliss and they wish it was them, but since its not they transfer that energy onto you and now they have ruined your day to make them just as miserable as you. People have problems of their own already it is not that personal, because they said this or that to does not make it true. If someone is always judging you or criticizing you keep in mind decent human beings don't behave in this manner they uplift you and give you constructive criticism when needed. So dwelling on what others say can truly make you lose focus and it will ruin an otherwise great day! Do not give people the power to control how you feel, you should be in control at all times.
As I stated before people change like the weather so someone feeling warm and pleasant at one moment can be feeling cold and bitter the next moment. This is why it is important not to get too caught up in what people say or how people operate because those whom are not consistent and loyal factors in your life should be eliminated. Thinking is good, thinking a lot is even better, but overthinking is time wasted it leads to procrastination. Time is your most valuable asset so never dwell on the past live in the here an now. Stop caring about others opinions about you it takes you out of present moment only the here and now matters. If you trust the universe and become your most authentic self, if you do this the right people will find yo. These are the people whom will love and accept you for who you actually are so open them with welcoming arms. You must realize that everybody sees reality totally different, everybody has different perceptions. How people treat you is often how they treat themselves and others within their own lives. they love according to their level of perception. This is were most people make mistakes because they are trying to live within other peoples perceptions they are trying to live in another persons world rather than their own. Too often people want to turn you into a cheap copy of themselves, friends and family too! They are not exempt from this hold everybody responsible including yourself. You are born as an original please do not die a copy.
Wonderful post. I love to see young people (I'm 62) express themselves and get off the crazy "wheel of expectation" that is imposed upon them. The "you should/need/have" to do (insert whatever you want here) is all a game of control. The "do as I say, not as I do" garbage is just that...garbage. Here's to a wonderful journey in life! Upvoted and Followed.
Thank you you made my day and you are right. MY grandsons are awesome and know more each day, So please listen they have a lot to say.
its a complex cookie to crack, but if you can crack it..
Dam Chaz great piece bro !! I will resteem
This is really true because most people pursue selfish and negative opinions that will always let you down for progressing in life. Keep up the good Work
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I know that's easy to say. But in life everything is based off other people's opinions. Sure we can go through life just ignoring everyone, but in the grand scheme of things, its going to be a pretty lonely life. Trust me, ive been bullied all my life and it doesnt get better.
Great post, upvoted and followed!
The saying, "life is but a game and there are many ways to play, so the choice is ours." It sounds as if you are on the way to being the hero of your own life. Great insight in these paragraphs.
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