happy forever second chapter: final words
part number eighteen
Our most intense desire in marriage should be to create the best possible relationship between two different human beings between two different human beings with individual personality traits. both should try to change what is necessary and make the appropriate corrections.
even so it is possible that many imperfections continue to appear. After having made the necessary efforts to solve the problems, each spouse should accept the reality in the most positive way possible.
Good mental health depends on our ability to accept circumstances that we can not change.
Negative situations that are beyond our control can overwhelm us if we allow it, or we can exercise our willpower to resolve to take advantage of difficult circumstances.
No one can fully satisfy our needs or dreams.
therefore, both spouses should carry out the marital unity based on reality. then, success in marriage does not consist so much in reaching perfection, as in maintaining a healthy perspective on the impossible differences to be solved.
"One of the most obvious reasons for marital failure is that both the husband and the wife assume that because they have obtained a license to marry, they have guaranteed success, if due to presumption they forget acts of courtesy. that allowed them to win each other, will probably destroy their marriage".