I'm with you on this - except for the beauty part. I think the concept is over-rated and avoid the topic when I can. You know I deal with fat people and - fat ain't pretty - it's life-threatening! I have this argument more than weekly in the BBW groups. It's exhausting!
I'm coming to you from @kryptonia with the same user name.
I messed this point up @fitinfun as I actually agree with you and want my daughter not to rate herself on her appearance. But I included a rant on how beautiful I think she is and that sidetracked the point that came across.
I can imagine the issues with which your BBW groups struggle. Your task is huge. (No pun intended.)