Some people are overzealously in making observations and passing comments. They do not seem to ever stop praising or being complimentary. However, as the old saying goes, “When something transgresses the limits, it becomes its opposite”, or “whoever hurries for something before its due time, is often punished by being deprived thereof.” Do praise things that are beautiful and charming − things over which a person feels happy when they are noticed, where he expects admiration and is moved upon hearing words of praise.
As for things that people usually feel embarrassed about, or feel mortified upon noticing, then close your eyes to those. For example: you enter your friend’s house and notice that the chairs are very old. Be careful that you do not become an irritating person who cannot cease to offer his unwanted advice. Be careful and do not let your tongue slip by saying: “Why don’t you buy new chairs? Half of the chandelier is not functional. Why don’t you buy a new one? The paint on your wall is peeling! Why don’t you paint the wall?” Dear brother, he did not ask you for your advice. You are not a professional decorator whose advice should be sought.
Remain silent. Perhaps he is not able to change the decoration. Perhaps he is financially restricted, and so on. None is more cumbersome than a man who embarrasses people by noticing things that humiliate him, and then rouses the topic and begins to pass comments.
It is said that a man once visited a patient and sat next to him for a while. He then asked him as to what was ailing him. The patient told him what was wrong, and that his illness was serious. The visitor, upon hearing this, screamed and said: “Oh no! So-and-so, a friend of mine had the same illness and he died because of it! My brother’s friend also caught this disease, and he remained bedridden until he died! My brother-in-law’s neighbour also caught this disease and died.” All the while, the patient listening to this was about to explode! Then, when the visitor finished what he had to say and decided to leave, he turned to the patient and said, “By the way, do you advise me with anything?” The patient said, “Yes! When you finally leave, do not bother ever coming back to me!” If you visit a patient, then do not mention death to him.
Hence, be careful, O intelligent person! Only pass comment
on things that are a source of joy, and not depressing.
A problem…
If you were ever forced to comment on something bad, such
as dirt on a garment, or a bad odour, then do so tactfully. Be
clever and kind while doing so.
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CONTENT : ENJOY YOURSELF By Dr Muhammad Abd Al Rahman Al Arifi