Lol, I love the line "Feel free to tell me how I don't know anything" it's often how I feel when I was ranting about similar issues.
I don't mind all the tokens since everyone is free to as they please and the bigger the network the more opportunity of bringing people into the chain. Instead of a one size fits all like a Facebook its more of a we have something for every size. So you pick the places that suit you. I don't participate in every dapp or site on steem only the ones I'm keen on.
You make a valid point it is a cash grab since our acquisition and retention rates are terrible so only the same authors are benefiting. I do think eventually as onboarding becomes easier with RC delegation and lite/wallet accounts we'll be able to bring people into the various environments and keep them a lot longer with better engagement and curation.
One login to rule them all
But I do think there is progress in the one login with steemkeychain and once it can be integrated on a mobile device I think it could really solve a lot of these problems. Sites that have upgraded to steemconnect 3 and support steemkeychain make logins steamless where you only need to use your username and boom you're in. It's so easy and I know a lot of people don't know about it yet but I'm sure it will be rolled out across the board soon enough
We all want the same thing for people to enjoy what we've found in this place and we're all impatient for it to happen. I totally am on your side, I just think we are making strides to get there!