"Energy Vampires" consume, producing only enough to get by while seducing and taking money, property, time, effort and spiritual energy from others. "Energy Vampires" are naturally attracted to people who are depressed or having a rough spot in life, they pretend to help and heal a troubled person. Then, after the healing process has begun (but not finished) they start to take. They take your money, “gifts,” pride and self worth. They live on your resources. Once you are depleted and cannot “give them what they need,” they move on to one or more “backups” blaming you for all of the damage leaving you in much worse condition than when they found you.
AKA- Persons with Borderline personality disorder, They always feel "empty".
How can you tell if a person is an "Energy Vampire" ?
Here are a few easy tells and research you can do to uncover a Vampire before they destroy you.
They are always “down” because their partner “does not understand ;” Only caring about job and career Energy Vampires require all of your attention the definition of "high maintenance".
They will tell you that you can help by being a friend, lover, "physical love just until they get "through this".
During sex, They will always encourage eye contact, lovingly gazing into your eyes as they perform to help your “healing”. This is the "Energy Vampires" secret weapon. Eye contact during intimacy will energize you and grow the neural pathways making you fall in love. You will come to need the Vampire like an addict needs a fix.
It is highly likely They are a serial cheater and will have mastered technology to keep in touch with their “other world” of backups. Be suspicious if They get a lot of messages / calls only on rare occasion leaving the phone unattended. They will be connected to their other world and will not want to combine phone accounts unless it is in Their name. They will want all control over phone and mail accounts.
They will have “secret APPS” on their cell phone (Burners, etc), which you can discover if you go to Settings-general and look for “Restrictions”. Restrictions was originally set up as a parental control but can hide apps for communicating with their “backups” , drug dealers Sycophants hiding other secrets such as images, video and dating sites. These apps do NOT appear on the phone bill except as “data” there is no way to track what and where and who. If your mates phone has a "restrictions" password you have a problem.
"Energy Vampires" are very sexual for a while, then gradually taper off of frequent sex using it as a punishment or reward.
You cannot give an "Energy Vampire" “enough.” Whether it is time, attention, love, gifts or money, the more you give them, the more they want. You keep on giving until you are drained emotionally, energetically and financially.
"Energy Vampires" are frequently daughters of female alcoholics or addicts. They observed Mother, were exposed to abuse, neglect and early sexualization. They frequently have “abandoning fathers,” because Mother Vampire crushed his soul casting him aside as Mother moved to “safety,” away from everyone who knows her, to a fresh start and fresh “friends”.
You CANNOT “fix” or save an "Energy Vampire". The damage done to them in their childhood is deep and profound. Practicing skilled mental compartmentalization, often having an in-ability to remember early childhood blocked memories (pre 8 yrs old) or fear expressing early memories. They will have been sexualized young, and will have lovers 10 -15 years older. One Vampire I knew described men of her age as “puppies”.
Female "Energy Vampires" lose their virginity to older men before age thirteen. Parents are often an enabler of the bad behavior as their children are exposed to adult situations left alone while parents are engaged in substance abuse, are incapacitated or absent..
Escape the trap: All Reptiles will use their past as an excuse for their destruction & havoc. “I had such a horrible early life” is a common excuse. They will waste the lives of their wives, husband's, family, and each backup man in sequence repeating the same pattern with each: seduce, addict, drain, move on to the next.
Unless an "Energy Vampire" has been in deep therapy with a highly skilled professional for many many years, They are a lost cause for a relationship. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy CBT, is known to be of help if practiced often with a qualified therapist.