In response to: https://steemit.com/funny/@sweetsssj/miss-opinionated-the-evolution-of-a-relationship
(This guy believes he needs this chick. The truth is what he probably needs is to show himself a little respect. Source)
Miss Opinionated : The Evolution of a Relationship
...or rather what she says is a relationship. She says it as if it were universal, which is, in her extreme arrogance, a way to passive-aggressively escape the personal reality of the fact that things could be different, and since she has decided to believe that this is the only way a relationship could ever be, without exception, she does that by universalizing her own experience as if it was everybody's.
First of all, this is an instruction manual and narrated guide to how not to have relationships. Everything said in the post are euphemisms, descriptions and excuses to being attached to another, crucially dependent on their being. Just like socialism always leads to communism, such relations always lead to the immense desire of total dominance over the other person in the form of passive aggression or even physical force.
"The Trapping Stage"
The first stage she calls "The Honeymoon Stage" in which the people involved do everything to to be as attractive as possible. Well, they do this in order to lure each other in so that they can trap each other and feed on them. It's nothing but a situation of , and usually the people aren't even that attracted to each other, let alone sexually aroused. They simply settle for what they believe is their limit of what kind of guy or girl they can get, in their mind.
(This girl is very shy and insecure. She is convinced you cure it by getting into relationships with someone who is... also shy and insecure... Yeah... Source)
"Exodus post honeymoon stage", also known as the wearing off of the drug of co-dependence
In this stage, each party does everything to be as ugly as possible (physically and in terms of behaviors), because deep down inside, they know they're capable of more; their true self signals to them that they need to get out by starting fights. And yes, they are capable of much, much more, and they could model a perfectly decent life - even a great one. However, due to their constant reinforcement of the belief that they aren't capable of, or deserves better, or they can't live without each other, they stay. The continuous and conscious seeking of conflict and emotional battle they deem better than breaking up, because they cannot stand life as a non-vampires. This is but a reinforced belief within the mind of a co-dependent, and it could be broken through conscious and consistent decision making, but they choose not to, thus waste their precious little time they have on this earth in complete and utter misery. Many who stay too long go frigid and will never have pleasurable sex again.
(This is some disgusting, crazy goddamned stuff! Calling this "love" is like calling a murder the act of giving birth. Source)
One moment you could be head over heels in love with someone and the next, wishing they were dead.
She calls this love, but does that seem like something people that are even remotely capable of even grasping the concept of love would say? No. The problem is nothing but the misuse of the term "love". Actually, wrongly calling really bad and awful things love, let alone claiming that two co-dependent individuals are in love", who are merely grabbing onto anything they can reach, desperate to to meet their unmet needs, is actually abusive to the very sanctity of love. Like I stated in my previous post, this is not a joke. None of it is.
Here's a rough summary on what to do when you feel the need to attach yourself to someone:
(It's better to work these steps than to recover from 100 daily, stingy insults from your so called "girlfriend". Source)
To sum up the post of @sweetsssj , what she describes is nothing but the desperate act of the seeking out of a temporary, emotional high, as a result of deep psychological childhood trauma. It can only (and will) result in a crater of an emotionally post-apocalyptic battlefield that reeks of apathy, resentment and need. People seem to believe that a relationship is something (or many of them) you "go through" in order to root out whatever is you don't like until you one day find that person which will fit you and whom you will fit. This is not true. You don't "end up" with a person. You choose them. Even if you're unaware of it, there's a reason for every relationship you have and have had. This is where the disconnect lies; people think you, but ask yourself this:
None of this is love, or remotely even a relationship, but the crazy idea, acted out in real time, that another person can fill that empty hole inside of you that you've had since you were little. If you have been hurt, you can either live off another human being's life force for all of eternity, or you can work to heal. If you choose to continue using people as self-serving, emotional life-stock for your broken, starving soul, you will end up as the people portrayed and described in the post every single time, no exception. However if you do choose to take the journey of self-knowledge and healing, then anything you've ever dreamed about can come true, for your life will be the direct result of your own intelligent design.
/Pissed off Eddie
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