wow.. im SO sorry .. i was going to write at the end of this post, that maybe 80% or more of the women i have known have been abused.. it is one of the unspoken things that is vastly underestimated.
i really love how you say about that 'delicious tension', what a way to put it! this was surely a hard post to write, im not even sure i know how i feel even after writing it!
hugs to your perfectly healed arm <3
Hugs back. :) It IS a delicious tension and will always be an art more than a science. We CAN heal and release the wounds we carry... and we are better, stronger women, men and lovers for it. The part of us which has been gouged and healed feels more deeply and holds a greater depth.