I think one of the most interesting things about this question is the way in which it is framed. For some reason, it made me think of the concept of 'gaslighting' whereby people re-frame or re-illuminate your own experience in their own light. Asking someone to 'own' their emotions seems to me like a way of disempowering them and deflecting any participation they/you might be having in the creation of these emotions. Obviously, we all have emotions and we all try our best to 'own' them, understand them and adjust to the complexities life throws at us.... however, the crux of the issue at hand might demand a greater examination of the situation, the instigator of the emotion in question or simply an understanding that, 'yeah, sure I do own my emotions, but can you see how natural and expected these emotions are if you are going to be/do/say things like that?' Being emotional superhumans that can remain stoic and responsible emotionally all the time might seem like a superior alternative to the reactionary conditioning we are usually stuck with, but if people are not careful, the emphasis on 'owning one's emotions' might obfuscate the very real and tangible things in our lives that can be acted on, instead of, or in addition to one's emotions only. A bit rambly, but I hope someone out there gets what I am saying.... lovely entries, all of you!
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thanks for you inputs! I understand what you say.. and im sure there are times when this phrase can be used in ways that are no even quite right.. but equally.. when said to one self, by one self.. to really dig deeper into our actions and responses i think its a very useful self inquiry..
VERY nice to see you here, AND commenting after so many moons!!
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