10 rules of education of teenagers

Denies all around teenagers generally difficult to offer in return for something specific. By experimenting with his looks, they are rarely satisfied with the result. And for frequent changes of mood they are also not the answer. Compounding the picture of painful hormonal changes. They are intolerable. And first of all for ourselves. And in this state, you need to manage to somehow learn to be polite, friendly and meet the parent ozhidaniyam.V this period, relations between children and parents often give a crack, and then it is very difficult to recover. To avoid this, it is important to remember the simple but effective things.
How to find a common language with a teenager.
1. cursing and berating the teenager - the most pointless.
After reading the child the next lecture or scream at him, you do not get any result, except negative. He further move away from you. Whenever you are tempted to do so, imagine yourself in his place. What will you do if you're being nakrichit? At first, you feel resentment, aggression, desire to cry or answer, and eventually stop communicating with the person. So why do you think your scream must have a therapeutic effect on your child? Sooner or later, the child ceases to hear you and closes.
Only one conclusion: this model of communication is inefficient especially for you.
2. Children are afraid of the reaction of parents.
Learn to not feel discontent with their child and remove criticism. Absolutely! Teenager always feels when you do not like something and when you are unhappy with them. Even if you are silent. And if you are still react negatively, he begins to experience anxiety. First, he ceases to trust you, and then take you. And he will find you a replacement.
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Children want to talk to us. But on those topics that really interest them. And then, when they feel that we endorse them. We reduce contact with them to clear or hidden teachings, eventually losing credibility in their eyes. Love your children as they are, and do not demand from them is impossible.
3. If there is no problem, tell yourself "Stop!".
Ask yourself this question and honestly answer it: you just do not like something in the child or is it really a problem? For example, if a child is painted hair green color - a few people like it. But is this a problem? This threatens the child's life? It's just a way of expression, and the vast majority of teenagers go through this period. I just realized that there is a problem far-fetched, and is - real.
4. If the problem really is - place concrete and feasible task.
For example, if I know that my daughter will never become an excellent student, you will not put in front of her and a task to make her an excellent student in any way. This is silly. Everyone has their own abilities and opportunities. I put the task to improve the assessments that it has today. No need to wait on the child that he is unable to do.
5. The tasks are divided into simple and complex.
Simple tasks parents can be solved without the participation of the child. Complex they are called in when a child must also do something. To solve a complex problem is necessary that the child was in agreement with this task. If it does not have its own motivation - an impossible task. She will have to change.
6. Tasks should not be much.
You can not solve multiple problems simultaneously and continuously. Having any one outcome, Rejoice and leave the child alone for at least six months. No need to put on an endless stream of problem solving.
7. If a teenager does not want to learn, the task of parents give the elephant a carrot.
Imagine an elephant, on which the rider sits. Rider - this is what we want. But the elephant - that is our baby. If the bishop does not want to move in the direction in which the rider wants to go, what happens? The winner is the elephant. Our parent task to get up close and praise the elephant; offer him a carrot, and perhaps he quietly goes forward.
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If the child from falling behind - it starts to make a choice himself. But that was the motivation, the child needs to understand that it's his decision.
8. the Five does not make a person schastlivymU all people have different abilities.
Here I draw badly. I would train for five hours a day and one day would draw a nice elephant. But then I could not do what I do best and brings me pleasure. I would not have time to mathematics. It happens the other way around. The child is talented in drawing, but my parents put all the power that he has received the top five in mathematics, thus ruining his talent for fine arts. Five of whether the child will make happy? Abilities to be developed.
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My husband and I, and he is also a professor of mathematics, it was not easy to accept the fact that our daughter behind in their studies and very poorly considered. So much so bad that remains in second