Why much young mothers

in #girlsfoundation6 years ago (edited)


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It has become mindful of girls at the age of 16 to 20 years of age having unwanted pregnancy.

Now the painful and sad part is that some can not go through shame and pain they go for abortion, some do away with the child after birth knowing there is no provision for the child.

Now my question is what could be the cause for such pains and rampant act of early pregnancy amongst our young girls.

Is it that our parents are not doing a good home training, our society, the church or ourselves as the cause.

Now its true we all have dreams, desires, wish and lots more but the question is how do we make them come through.

Using Nigeria as my case study, I have seen life acts, heard stories and so on I came up with some findings also asking others on their own opinion.

From my view I found out one major factor which enhanced this rampant young mother hood situation.

So the first is finance, when we have needs,desires, dreams and the money its not there it can be frustrating and you tend to do what you are not. Like some one who wants to go to school to become some one no much cash from parents what will they do and our system in the society is corrupt free scholarship is no longer free you have to pay your way in so some will be introduced by friends to do some stuffs following sugar daddy and lots more. Some depend on a guy to train her and lots more. Now what do you think will be the outcome of this acts.

Another cause to this problem is pear group and standard of living trying to meet up with your equals. I had a class mate who go sleep with boys just to belong. Some friends tell others if they have not had sex is lack of opportunity and lots more. So now the other girl will be like what is there in sex I can not do I need to belong, then sleeps with a guy next thing she is pregnant lots of different cases.

Another Major cause its our parents, they have a big roll to play in our lives so when they fail to perform their duty well enough its a big problem to the society. They have to live a good standard life for the children to follow. And its also their duty to correct, guard and make sure all what they teach them its been applied. They are to teach them good morals and Christian values. Putting them in the right part but there is a saying you can not give what you do not have so as parents you need to set a good example for your children to follow. Give them proper sex education telling them the good and the bad at tender age because the rate at which the world changing technology its growing fast and lots of things are happening the earlier they know the better.

Trust me no one love to be like this young girl in this picture and also to parents.

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Now you can do something about it to change it.

And also some mothers pushes their daughters to men telling them that their mate does it just because of lack of money are parents to do such, some frustrate them into early marriage that also resulting to divorce cases every where because some are not prepared for that yet while some go into wrong marriages where their husbands maltreat them and sleeps around with other girls all same circle.

Looking at this picture where they are not matured enough for marriage due to early marriage.

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As parents lets save the lives of our children their happiness its also your and their peace its yours too.
There was a man in our neighbour hood that forces his way to have sex with the daughter later we found out she was pregnant that is evil. Lots of cases of such.

Then also youth we are filled sometimes with youthful age not wanting to listen to our parents and moral and how to live a good life. found out that in some cases they just want to do whats in their hearts due to age factors. Carried away by what they watch, see, want, hear.

I also questioned some people who also gave their views. Starting from @Dawizy
He mentioned two points
First is too much of sex and little knowledge

Looking at the world now sex its the most driving thing 95% of relationship involves sex. So they need to know how it works
The spiritual and physical effect.

Second person I questioned about this topic was a friend from school by name Emmanuel.

He mentioned also some points which is the cause to young mothers.
He talked about men who were not thought how to handle a woman.
Girls who has not been properly thought how to handle situations and how to carry themselves in the society of sheep in wolf clothen.
Influence from socials media and movies which had become a standard and mindset.
Then solutions for ladies who are virgines never to tell a man she is a virgin so you do not end up raped.
Knowing our society its not save where there are ritualist and rapist. (Two major virginity hunters)

There was a case of a girl who went visiting her male friend and was drugged through her drink. Slept with her and got her pregnant. Parents got to find out drove the girl away from home.

Technology has eaten our youth fast than we can imagine.
First teacher its our parents
Second the church
Third its the society
Then we ourselves should follow to what we are been thought. Conduct and live our lives pleasing to God.

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