What is hate?
Hate, as a mode of sins or of pride, generates destructive thoughts (but at a lesser intensity than paranoia). Antithetical thoughts, when directed to other people, represent pride ; when directed to oneself, represent guilt. [¹]. At a much lesser intensity of denigration, criticisms of other people represent jealousy, whilst criticisms of myself arise from my sense of idealism.
Hate by itself is the emotional dynamic of the ability to sustain long periods of concentration and meditation. It does not require an object to focus on (it mirrors pure love in this respect) ; it is a general-purpose tool for cutting positive attachments, especially in relationships (for example, pride in hate mode rejects another person, whereas hate by itself rejects any pleasant attachment to the other person). Hate produces clear thinking and strengthens a person’s will power. It supports the desire for solitude. It cools the mind and may easily be mistaken for a mild sense of peace. It is likely to be the prevailing mood when a mediator claims that they are no longer acting from a sense of ego. The skillful way of using hate is to clear the mind of redundant attachments and desires.
One of the better bits of advice I've run across regarding hate is - "Don't let someone rent space in your head."
If you hate what someone did, or a particular thing, it does you no good to allow that to "rent" space in your brain by thinking about it.
If you value being calm and collected, just approaching this from the standpoint of not wasting your energy perpetuating the same thoughts can help a great deal.
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Upvoted and followed. Interesting, "skillful way of using hate", never thought about it as a tool to be used. Am recovering from multiple concussions, and thus am irritable a lot, which can be perceived as being hateful but it's not the same source.