I decided to get engaged into ecency and came across this wonderful community so l wanted to write on feelings and emotions, l suffered alot from this and as a result of that and as a result of that l lost my best friend while growing up, so when l saw this community l decided to share with you guys how l feel and what l experienced about this.
Most friendship today has ended due to developing romantic or intensely personal feelings for someone, often beyond a type of Friendship. I believe the word called friendship should be based on mutual respect, and support, if there should be romantic desire it should be the agreement of the two partner. So by having a very close friend and then developing a form of romantic feelings for that friend you could make the person your partner but sometimes it doesn't really go as one planned it to be, because you might also end up loosing the person and also loosing that friendship when the person doesn't feel the same way about you. I would like to share my experience regarding regarding this.
While l was growing up l had this childhood friend who is not just a friend but also my classmate and my best friend, we were so close then that most of the time in school he normally buys snacks for me in break time without me asking him, after school we would go home together, play together, do assignments together, most times l usually help him copy his notes if he is too tired to do so. We liked each other genuinely until when we got to the senior class l noticed his behavior changed all of a sudden because he started being friends with the bad boys in the school.
But even as that l still don't mind the behavior he was putting up, and did everything l can to sustain that friendship because he was not just a friend but like brother to me. We kept going until one day in class he came touching me inappropriately when no teacher was in the class, l didn't like what he did and told him to stop but he kept on doing it, meanwhile the class was busy laughing and calling him my boyfriend, l got angry pushed him immediately and left the class l wanted to report to the head teacher but l didn't want to because he is my friend and didn't want him to get punished because of my actions so l decided to keep quiet about it. That day l left school without him knowing because l was still angry at him, In the evening he came looking for me at home and saw me sitting outside, he apologize for his actions and l forgave him. After forgiving him, he then hold my hands and said he wants to tell me something and hope l won't take it the wrong way then l said go on l won't the next thing he said was "this past few weeks l've been having this romantic feelings for you l know it might sound stupid but l'm serious about this l really want you to be my girlfriend l don't like you genuinely anymore as a sister but deeply in love with you and l would like you to be my girlfriend", immediately l removed my hands and told him l'm not interested in him and l don't want to be in a relationship with him because we are too young for this and l just like you as a friend and brother so l can't do this, he then replied saying if l can't be his girlfriend then we can't be the best friends we used to be anymore.
At that point l had to choose between the Friendship l've been protecting and the relationship he is asking for, so l said to him if choosing this Friendship will make you stop talking to me then so be it, because l can't be in a romantic relationship with someone like a brother to me, he then stood up and told me never to talk to him again even if we see each other at school we can no longer be friends. I cried and even got depressed, lonely no one to talk to but l believed l did it for the best, that was how l lost this guy being caught up in his feelings in the friendship and bond we shared.
Sometimes we could loose so many friends just because some might be caught up in their feelings and can't control it, but we just have to fight for the friendship worth fighting for and do what is right so the both people don't end up getting hurt.
I really appreciate your time and effort for reading my post and l will be sharing more stories to tell @rukyig blog.
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This is amazing. Thank you for sharing this thought with us.
😊Thanks dear l really appreciate this alot
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You just told my story, this was exactly what happened to me in high school, even till today whenever we see eachother, I'd just wave and walk past him. This was someone i grew up with, same church, same school.
I had to let the friendship go because i couldn't imagine myself being in a romantic relationship, it's gonna be disgusting to me because i saw him as brother .
This was exactly how i felt too, because i cherished my friendship with him. I hope you're fine now. Sending love ❤️🌻
Thanks love, this ur comment means a lot to me l really appreciate it dear. So sorry that this happened to you dear it's really sad and hurting when you grow up really close to the opposite gender with a genuine intentions and they don't feel the same way , you lost ur close friend but the good thing is that you made the right decision and you stood for what is right. Thanks once again dear