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I've had a friend ask me to tell her what exactly is going on in my life and I was weirded out. Don't get me wrong, there was absolutely nothing wrong with that question and I even was happy she had brought up the conversation.
She complained how she always told me about herself but she never knew of my own difficult moments. You'd think life always plays me the right cards.
I never intentionally hold back, it's just not in my person to share with others, save a few. I feel like most people only have pity to give when you share your life troubles with them and who has pity helped? 🤷♀️ Not me.
Often times, I see that people aren't emotionally intelligent enough to deal with the problems of others and are very generic with their replies. I also do not like to drop bombs on people, giving them more than they bargained for.
I've always being the I'm fine person and it takes probing to know I'm not really fine. The irony is that people like to share stuff with me and sometimes, I do the probing myself.
Do I wish I could share more? Yes. I just want it to be with people who can easily resonate with what I share and are truly empathetic or supportive. I never want a pity party or have anyone looking at me different.
Today, I saw a reality show about the wife of a famous African artiste. I think the show did her dirty by making her share candid parts of her life whereas the other stars of the show were as shallow as can be. I would hate to be that bare and pitied.
What do you think? Am I doing this wrong? Do you share freely?
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Hello @wolfofnostreet 🙋🏻♀️
Well, answering your question, I'm not a person who likes to be saying so much how I feel, what's wrong with me and stuff. I think I'm careful with that because sometimes I don't know what the person will do with the information I'm giving them. So I go with caution.
But there are people who like to share what they feel, what they think or almost everything about their life. Well, I think that each person manifests their emotions in a different way and that is also acceptable.
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Very well @wolfofnostreet I do understand your perception about things like this. I also do not like saying all to all. But for me, I have key people I say what I may be passing through or nees answers to. Basically, I have those who I think are fit for different issues e.g finance, relationship, spiritual stuffs etc. I believe this is kinds better than not saying at all most times...did i get it right?😁
This is how I think it should be. The problem is when people who share say, relationship matters with me expect that I would share mine too. Meanwhile, I don't think they're the best fit for that discussion.
Yes, i do not like this too. I even do not really like some people bothering me some probs though. 😀
I think sharing is healthy for our minds and social relationship. Not just so we can brag or get sympathy. Sometimes people share problems so other people will know that it's okay not to be okay and that life is not perfect, shit happens to everyone every day. It's also a way of making a friend feel that they're not alone, like what they are going through is just normal. We do get different stuff on our plates, life is fair.
I share a lot, but only with select people. I think, if you don't mind my saying, that you are wise. You sense when people do or do not have emotional intelligence. It is very healthy to share with someone you can trust, but who can you trust? I have made many errors in this vein. Now, I am far more selective. I only want to share with people who genuinely care, are not bored by my pain, and do not consider it to be gossip to tell others. There are very few such people in my life, but, luckily, enough.