大概半年前发生了一件事，在这段时间偶尔想起来都会很郁闷，本不想在意的，但有的时候真的控制不住自己就是会在意，现在想想凡是类似的事情，或类似的言语冲突，都是因为戳中了自己的痛处，最让人难受的或许就是有的人会刻意专拣他人痛处进行打压 ，在那种场景下，弱势的人变得更弱势，既无法反驳，又不愿歇斯底里，最终只会陷入更深的自我质疑，甚至很长时间走不出来。
我花了将近半年的时间，终于释怀了，因为我找到了强有力的反驳理由，或许是性格使然吧，一定要有佐证心里才舒服，即使这个论据或许只是自以为的逻辑通顺，不知道是不是学理之后的习惯，需要一番推导论证后才踏实。无论如何当下身心舒畅，甚至在设想，以后在遇到相同的状况我要狠狠怼回去，感觉做了外贸工作以后，虽然业绩没啥起色，但是脾气在濒临爆发的边缘，花费了好多年学会的隐忍，越来越坚持不下去了，有仇有怨就想当下了结。
”内耗“这个词是新发明的吗？还是这个时代赋予了它不一样的含义？“谦卑隐忍"这一传统的处世态度在其中又贡献了多少？偶尔疯癫一下也未尝不可，何必难为自己!
Something happened about half a year ago, Over the past while, I’ve felt down now and then when I think about it.. I originally tried not to care, but sometimes I just can’t help dwelling on it. Looking back, I realize all similar incidents or verbal conflicts happen because they hit a raw nerve of mine. What’s most upsetting is that some people intentionally pick at others’ sore spots to put them down. In such cases, those already at a disadvantage end up even more powerless—unable to fight back, yet unwilling to lash out. Eventually, they sink deeper into self-doubt and may take a long time to recover.
It took me nearly half a year to finally let go, and that’s because I found a strong counterargument to those hurts. Maybe it’s my personality—I need concrete proof to feel at ease, even if that “proof” is just logic that makes sense only to me. I wonder if this is a habit from studying science; I only feel secure after reasoning through and verifying things.
Anyway, I now feel completely relaxed, both physically and mentally. I’ve even imagined that if I face a similar situation later, I’ll stand up for myself firmly. Since I started working in overseas business, my performance hasn’t improved much, but my patience is always on the edge of snapping. The “forbearance” I spent years learning is getting harder to keep—I just want to settle any grievances right away.
Is the term “internal friction” (referring to mental exhaustion from overthinking or suppressing emotions) new? Or has this era given it a different meaning? And how much does the traditional value of “humility and forbearance” contribute to this internal friction? Sometimes, letting loose a little isn’t a bad thing. Why make things hard for yourself?
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