And especially if the relationship is toxic 101 and we get all those mad hits of Dopamine from the major "highs and lows* of said dysfunctional relationships. Tick tick. Boom!
It's almost as good as the drugs and alcohol, y'know.
I have a loved one who is currently detoxing from this. She's not yet in a position where she can see the process happening, but it's obvious to me. Right now she's stuck feeling bored in a neutral involvement in which she's desperately seeking the highs and lows she finds in her own fear of setting boundaries. I gently mentioned how people in recovery take time to be alone so they can heal. Hopefully she heard my words for what they were. Maybe she'll take them to heart, if they're what she needs and wants.
It's really a bummer how much shame and shaming there is around STDs.People have sex. People get things when they have sex, whether it's sexy sex or bad sex or slutty sex or sex while god's watching and giving them the thumbs up for a perfectly-executed missionary position. What people with lyme disease? Dirty bastards, frolicking about in the woods without tucking their pants into their socks like god intended. They deserved it. Shame on them. SHAME!
As for the scenario in the beginning, I found it amusing!! I do feel it neglected to include the importance of not oversharing your personal problems as the provider in a therapeutic relationship, the boundary being meant to protect both the patient and the provider. Plus, well, we don't work if we are contagious, and if there's any suspicion we might be we wear masks. (That's me defending my own case, as well as clarifying on a whole.) There's also the issue of inappropriate responses and behavior that could get provider canned or even put their licensure at risk. But otherwise that patient is a pretty cool person to be so unphased by the oversharing! Very compassionate. The world could use more people like that.
My problem for last the last year :D
Yet I'm not but am because of lack of information and over-sharing.
Yes :) We learned boundaries in the Recovery course I did. Important. Especially with Love Addiction stuff! Addicts fall in love in a heartbeat, you know. With a chair if it happened to support them.
Indeed it could! Currently the social world consists, mainly, of folks with masks on. Figuratively.
Perhaps this is why the therapeutic profession isn't have much success treating people? I mean... with the massive explosion of addiction and mental disorders, they can't really be claming that their "treatment" is working. That's insanity. The definition being repeating the same behaviour and expecting different results.
Except these are people's lives they're experimenting with. And keeping those sage boundaries all the while because, you know, they are therapists! They must know what they're doing and are all healthy and good. Absolutely in a position to share because they've completed the work themselves.
That would be the proof, I'd suggest. Not a piece of paper.
There's just too much at stake. And the children now... They're getting hold of them in early school days now. I'm not sure what the marketing and sales term for this is...
is it a "captured market"?
Summink like that
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Going to do a ☝️ here because I disagree. Therapy DOES work. The therapist has to be a good fit, present, and dedicated to helping the client. What screws people up is trauma and instability, particularly in the years of development. The addiction is an attempt to feel safe. The addict has to want to get better in order for therapy to be successful. And growth and recovery are hard work. Can take years. I believe that even an attempt at therapy and growth, even if the addict finds they aren't ready now or ever, is worth acknowledging. It just might not bring about the results we, personally, want to see.
Everyone has the freedom to stay fucked up in the head and heart even if it's a miserable life. It's really not a freedom we can take away unless we take away the life itself.
Also, not sure how therapists operate where you are, but here, well, I definitely could have benefited from having more people rooting for me when I was a kid. Even just some adult telling me I deserve to feel good and confident and proud of who I am. There was a lot of shit I could never talk about with my parents that I see now needed talking about. Any legs up I did have had a huge impact. Made me believe I was worth all those hours of therapy and work I would put in in the years to come.
My mom used to say to me "therapists just put ideas in your head." I believed it for a long time, until I finally realized she said that because her dad said that to her. Her dad beat and molested all the girls in her family. And her mom did nothing about it. If she'd gone to a therapist, her dad would have gotten what he deserved long before the cancer took him.
Life coaches. Yes!
Send the kids to life coaches 👍
"Therapy", by definition, encourages folks to think they are "ill".
Words Are Important ;)