You are spot on with every point. I've lost count of the number of people who've asked me what I'm going to do, and if I'm going to stay in the village. Why would I uproot myself and leave my friends and support system? Where would I go? People here remember The Husband - and us - and respect that. What more could I want?
And yes, neither of our husbands would have approved of us not getting on with life - and living. It's hard, but we have to. And I intend to.