Desde hace más de 5 meses llevo hablando con una muchacha con quien compartía una amiga en común y durante todo este tiempo no hemos podido coincidir para poder vernos y alargar aún más esas conversaciones que siempre iniciamos por mensajes, pero llegan hasta un cierto punto.
A esta nueva amiga la conocí realmente en una salida de fiestas donde yo me encontraba saliendo con otra muchacha y nos vimos en esa oportunidad, le tomé unas fotos que me pidió con mi teléfono y luego me pasó su número para que se las compartiera.
Desde entonces hemos hablado casi todos los días, pero en plan de amigos o al menos eso es lo que yo pienso. Durante este tiempo hemos lógicamente conversado un poquito de todo, desde problemas personales, de estudio, de trabajo, cosas bonitas que nos pasaron, que nos gustan, que no nos gustan, temas sobre psicología, religión y las invitaciones a uno u otro evento que no han podido faltar, pero que no hemos podido coincidir.
Es una muy bonita esta amistad a distancia, que a pesar que estamos en la misma ciudad, es a distancia porque en todo momento, salvando el primer día, ha sido a través de plataformas digitales que nos hemos podido comunicar.
En distintas oportunidades hemos hablado para vernos y conversar un poco, porque han sido muchos los temas que hemos pospuesto para continuarlo “cuando nos veamos”, pero en eso llevamos ya un par de meses y nada.
A pesar de esto, eso no ha impedido que nuestra relación de amistad mengue, más bien ha sido como una fortaleza porque sabemos que en cualquier momento puede ocurrir, respetamos el tiempo del otro, cosa muy importante en una amistad.
Eso me ha gustado de esta relación, debe ser porque vengo de amistades que me exigían vernos o escribirnos para que pudiera considerarse “verdadera”, aunque ya creo que no, si es verdad que hay ese tipo que requieren atención constante, pero hay otras que no tanto.
Todos tenemos ese mejor amigo de nuestra infancia o alguien con quien llevamos muchísimo tiempo sin vernos y al momento de hablar con ellos cada cierto tiempo la amistad sigue ahí presente, el cariño se mantiene como si fuéramos los mismo niños, existe ese tipo de amistad también.
Hay relaciones de todo tipo y esta ha tenido su particularidad. Muchos podrán decir “no han podido sacar un tiempo para verse” y puede ser que sí, pero tampoco es por necesidad de vernos, solo esperando que sea el momento correcto, sin apuros y sin verlo como un compromiso.
Ella ha estado colmada de tareas de su universidad, yo en el trabajo y mis proyectos, pronto será.
Y quise escribir esto para compartirles mi pensamiento de ahora y es que una relación sea de amistad, de amor o laboral no necesariamente requiere de atención permanente, presencialidad o llamados de atención para que pueda funcionar, si se puede dar para seguir reforzando la misma, que chévere, pero no es una necesidad.
The long awaited departure
For more than 5 months I have been talking to a girl with whom I shared a friend in common and during all this time we have not been able to coincide to be able to see each other and to extend even more those conversations that we always start by messages, but they reach a certain point.
I actually met this new friend at a party outing where I was dating another girl and we saw each other on that occasion, I took some pictures of her which she asked for with my phone and then passed me her number so I could share them with her.
Since then we have talked almost every day, but as friends, or at least that's what I think. During this time we have logically talked a little bit about everything, from personal problems, study, work, beautiful things that happened to us, that we like, that we don't like, topics about psychology, religion and the invitations to one or another event that we could not miss, but that *we have not been able to coincide.
It is a very nice friendship at a distance, even though we are in the same city, it is at a distance because at all times, except for the first day, it has been through digital platforms that we have been able to communicate.
On different occasions we have talked to see each other and talk a little, because there have been many issues that we have postponed to continue it "when we see each other ", but we have been doing that for a couple of months now and nothing.
Despite this, this has not prevented our friendship relationship from waning, rather it has been like a fortress because we know that at any moment it can happen, we respect each other's time, which is very important in a friendship.
That's what I liked about this relationship, it must be because I come from friendships that required me to see or write to me so that it could be considered "real ", although I don't think it's true that there are those that require constant attention, but there are others that not so much.
We all have that best friend from our childhood or someone with whom we have not seen each other for a long time and when we talk to them from time to time the friendship is still there, the affection remains as if we were the same children, there is that kind of friendship too.
There are relationships of all kinds and this one has had its particularity. Many may say "they have not been able to make time to see each other " and maybe they have, but it is not out of necessity to see each other, just waiting for the right moment, without rushing and without seeing it as a commitment.
She's been swamped with college work, I've been swamped with work and my projects, soon to be.
And I wanted to write this to share my thoughts with you now and that is that a relationship, be it a friendship, love or work relationship, does not necessarily require permanent attention, presence or calls of attention to make it work, if it can be given to continue reinforcing it, that's great, but *it's not a necessity.
Virtual relationships, so called, have their own certain charm and are increasingly preferred nowadays. They don't really require you to give them that much time, at the same time they give you so much - attention, understanding, freedom. Here you can relax more. To be more yourself, to share things you might not share live. Isn't it like that?
Hi @jakemathe, I'm just passing by to remind you that engagement is a crucial part of the life on this platform and it would be great if you interact more with other authors under their own posts. 😊
Regards
Es así. Muchísimas gracias por la sugerencia lo haré más, un abrazo
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Hola, me gusto mucho el final donde dices que para que se mantenga una amistad no necesitas atención permanente, y es así, es una realidad. Creo que el concepto de amistad para muchos esta un poco mal. Creo que un verdadero amigo es aquel o aquella que cuando mas lo necesite esta. Simple como eso. Saludos