Nobody in their proper senses would desire to lose control of themselves like that so definitely, it must be sad for her. I wish her well.
Oh yes! The societal standards for what is considered beautiful and acceptable for women keeps changing every day and as women, unless you have gotten to a place of emotional maturity, self-awareness, self-acceptance and then self-love, it can be hard to not be influenced by all the noise. It's such a pity, really.