That statement "everyone does it" seems to be the push button for peer pressure that normally gives the go ahead to join the queue, I very much agreed the part that says peer pressure is something everyone faces which is more common with students, I experienced the influence of peer pressure during my secondary school days atleast that was the one I remembered, just maybe there was many more in primary school or junior secondary school but the one I remembered happened in my senior secondary school, looking at the incident now I just consider it a childish act because I mean it was so unnecessary but thank God for maturity and growth.
Back then in secondary school I had friends but the I was so close with is my childhood friend that we went to the same primary school together, our bond was so strong that we continued our friendship in secondary school, all those friends of mine were in a relationship and mine was just to be in the 'awwwwwn group' but when this friend of mine entered a relationship in our senior secondary school, the thing started hungrying me to join, I would just be hearing gist of how the relationship is going and all those things started making me crave for my own attention and care, then to put the icing on the cake that friend of mine who has been encouraging me to also have my own boyfriend introduced me to her boyfriend's friend and she did all she could to match make us.
Yess I had a relationship in school and it was so fucked up, you know this childish, immature kind of love yeah that's all I can describe about it, we fight, quarrel, fix things, get back together and all those tolling of one's emotions, well it's just now that I am realizing that there's nothing actually special about secondary school relationship except for the memories and all, it was a big distraction for me back then because instead of focusing in class I find myself looking out of the window with my eyes ransacking the environment to see if my boyfriend was with another girl, we actually weren't in the same class he was in science and I was in art class, it wasn't the best decision I made at that point of my life because alot went into that relationship like my time, my emotions, at some point my money, I was even hiding about everything because I didn't want anybody to find out.
But growing up I know better not to allow peers pressure me into anything am not ready for, I respect you enough to respect your space do I expect you to do the same, Nah... I pick my friends they don't pick me, I have been a victim of peer pressure many times while growing up and I feel it was because I never believed in myself and I was never confident of me so I needed others to complete me, I never knew all I needed was just me inorder to be the best. So now at this stage of my life peer pressure is the least of my worries, if it's not working I would just walk away because I will always choose me over and over again.
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Lesson learnt, with this lesson you will be able to advice the younger ones that are coming and that have refuse to face their study because of secondary school relationships.
😁😁 more like an advice coming from an experienced person, yes I will. Thanks for reading through
Your choices will overtime get closer to what you desire. It will not be perfect but stay on course and learn from your mistakes.
Definitely I Will, thank you for this important addition
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Imagine, instead of you to focus on your studies, you were busy scanning the whole school with your x-ray vision to check if your boyfriend might be cheating. 😅
I believe it is a girls thing, you tend to move in groups and if the group decides to do one thing, it becomes a general decision everyone must partake in
Yeah been influenced can make people take bad decisions
Well done