I cant say I understand what you went through because experiences although are similar have different impact on each person but I have been on similar situation where I had to rebuild my entire life twice, on both occasions end up without a penny and lost everything from possessions to friends, the first time only my mom, sister and brother were there for me, but the problem came after I got over the economical bad situation, since it was my fault at times those mistakes hunt me and I torture myself feeling bad for all those mistakes day by day, feeling that I did so wrong that maybe I was worth nothing, things got worst until I start suffering from anxiety at night, the only thing that help me to get over that situation was to identify what moments or situations trigger my behavior of feeling bad, accept my errors and understand that there is nothing I could do no matter how bad those errors were, there was nothing I could do to fix them so everyday in the morning when I was walking to work I use to say and still do when I have a lot of work "There is nothing I can fix in the past or future and I only care about the present" , its not easy and not everyone can get out of the hole we dig for our self's
What you say in the beginning is true, even when the cases are similar, each person faces their own experience because we are not all the same.
I feel that you went through very bad times and those economic situations and those losses not only of money but also of friendships, it is strong. Not everyone manages to rebuild and come out of it, or start from scratch.
I like that advice you give yourself and it's very real. There is nothing in the past that we can change and the future is uncertain, plus I always say that the future is our present. That is what really matters, what we are doing now will be our future tomorrow.
If it is not going well, excellent, and if it is going badly, we must keep going and moving forward, because as long as we have sunrises left, we must never give up.
I loved reading you and especially that you stopped by. I appreciate it very much 😊🐝🫂 @skiptvads