Lately, I've been feeling some kind of way, my mind is cluttered and then the pressure đđ huhâŠ
You know, when I was younger, adulthood looked like freedom wrapped in a shiny package. I always imagined having my own space, spending my money however I want, and finally making decisions without anyoneâs approval.
But what no one told me is that adulthood comes with a thousand hidden layers, some sweet, some tough, and some that just make you wonder if you signed up for the wrong membership.
Letâs start with the bills. Bills donât just arrive, they multiply. You pay rent and feel like a responsible adult for a moment, but before you can celebrate, the electricity bill knocks. Right after, water shows up. Then the internet. Then some subscription you forgot you signed up for years ago. Adulting comes with this silent reminder, money doesnât stay long when responsibilities are endless.
Nobody told us that payday excitement is short-lived because half of it is already booked for bills before the money even lands.
Then thereâs friendship in adulthood. Remember when you could see your friends almost every day, or spend hours talking on the phone? Now, everyone is on a different schedule, chasing careers, raising families, or moving to new places. Group chats get quieter, hangouts become harder to plan, and sometimes, you donât realize how much you miss someone until you see an old photo. Friendship as an adult often feels like scheduling board meetings, aligning calendars, negotiating free time, and hoping life doesnât get in the way.
Another part nobody talks about is loneliness. You can be surrounded by colleagues, neighbors, even family, and still feel like youâre carrying the world on your shoulders. Adulting has a way of making you look put together on the outside while inside, youâre fighting invisible battles.
You start to realize that being independent also means learning to sit with silence and face certain struggles alone. And thatâs a hard truth most of us donât say out loud.
And letâs not forget the mental pressure of expectations. Society paints timelines, you're expected to graduate by this age, get married by that age, build a career, buy a house, raise children. The reality? Life doesnât follow a neat checklist.
Some people are thriving in their careers but single, others are married with kids but struggling financially, and some are still trying to figure out what they truly want. The pressure to âhave it all figured outâ at a certain age can weigh heavier than the bills.đ„ș
But hereâs the comforting part, youâre not the only one going through it. Behind the curated smiles on social media, behind the âIâm fineâ responses, many people are navigating the same storms. Some days we thrive, ticking off goals and feeling proud. Other days, weâre just surviving, eating instant noodles and hoping tomorrow feels lighter. Both are valid. Both are part of the journey.
So, if adulthood feels heavier than you imagined, breathe. Youâre not behind. Youâre not failing. Youâre human, learning, adjusting, and figuring it out as you go. Nobody has it all together, no matter how polished they look.
And maybe thatâs the part of adulthood we should talk about more often, the fact that weâre all just trying, and thatâs more than enough.
It can only get better đ
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That part of loneliness is very real, we didn't see this part of adulthood.
Huhh.... That's crazy yunno
Ok maybe I haven't really ventured into adulthood but I do have ideas on what it would be like. Or perhaps, I already know what and what not to expect and you just throw more light on it.
Responsibilities, challenges, bills, name it. They all keep heaping one after the other. It's not easy just as life isn't anyways. But we can always pull through by putting in our possible best, reaching out to others and taking a break when it becomes too much. All with a smile on the face.
Btw, you already have a discord account so I will invite you to join neoxian city - the city that never sleeps, lol.
It's a place you can tap blessings ; interact with others and definitely make great friends along the way, alongside opportunities of receiving upvotes on your hive posts (if you check my recent post, you will see an upvote from neoxian and that's just a part of the juicy benefits of being a citizen.
Though unlike other communities, it has a city school and teachers who will put you through on the do's and don'ts and other things you need to know. Either way, you would really enjoy being a citizen of the city just like I have so far.
https://discord.gg/qfTknbwBXG
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Girllll I think you missed this @cious .
Ohh I'm so sorry đ
No problem
Thank you so much for reading through, I just joined
That's great âșïž
Sighs in Adulthood frustration... I think that this adulthood of a thing should come with a manual or something, cause why not?? when we were younger, we surely saw other adults going through all these but we ignored these parts and focused on the privileges they had as adults. My entire month's pay is already booked for bills and all that even before the month ends. Responsibilities and bills just keep piling up. Regardless, this was a beautiful write up. Nicely written
As they will always say Adulthood na scam
But I think the stress and everything that comes with it will pay off one day.
Thank you for popping in my dear
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