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I.
Now, marriage they say is between two people, but in the real sense it is between two families who have decided to love and choose each other. Because how can you as a bride or groom go ahead with a marriage when you know your family don't accept your partner. In simple terms, your partner will just be living in hell no matter what he or she does. How comfortable will it be for him or her when you're having a family gathering, a celebration or something that requires you both to be there, how comfortable will he or she feel. Love u agree is the foundation, but then there's something about acceptance too, acceptance strengthens that foundation. Also, they'd say love is above all things, and even though that is true, when there's constant interference, hostility, rejections and many more, love is bond to wear off. To build a happy and lasting marriage, both partners should be accepted, loved, and welcomed by each others family.
II.
About this, I would say it depends. I almost wrote no. Because huhm... But then, I felt if their reasons for disliking me is due to an assumption or misunderstanding that can be resolved and looked into, then I will do my best to make them see things the way it is. But if their dislike or hatred does not have a head or a tail, is unreasonable and my partner as well refuses to address it and make them see things, then I wouldn't even waste my time to prove any point. There's a Yoruba saying that says, "Aya burúkú ṣeé fẹ́, àná burúkú ni kò ṣeé ṣàní" meaning, "you can marry a difficult wife, but living with difficult in-laws is another challenge entirely."
Marriage is not easy even without all of those dramas. So, why add more to it.
I believe in such a situation, my partner has more work to do, and if she's willing to help out, then why not, but if she's not seeing, doing or saying anything about it... Then it's just best to let go .
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This is quite an interesting topic fr. Family as we all know, is the basic foundation of every society and the world as a whole. But family itself is nothing but an empty shell if the individuals involved are not in unison.
Anyone who goes ahead to get married without acceptance from his or her spouse's family practically signed up for a life in hell.
1+1 is what gives us a two, not just one alone. Yes, love is a strong emotion with 💯 momentum but acceptance and of course, other factors creates a wonderful balance.
Not even in this our African country especially Nigeria.... Life will first of all get tiring and the love eventually turns to be an hell
Honestly ❤️
You're right my brother, it's true that love brings together but acceptance keeps together. But I strongly believe that when there true and strong love that can stand amidst all odds my brother, then I will accept myself regardless.
Huhm...
Yeah, you're right, but I'm not sure about that though.