Marriage goes beyond having a romantic relationship. It involves commitment, sacrifices, and lots more. No wonder some people who weren't patient enough to understand what marriage entails prior to saying I do end up regretting their decisions when things go wrong with their relationships.
I have seen some people who are single by choice. There's a particular advanced lady I know who is a barrister, and she simply made the decision to stay single for life. In one of my interactions with her, she said she isn't the type of person who can be totally submissive to a man, especially when it comes to taking a decision that will affect her career. She believes that no man can be trusted, and many other reasons; in other words, a man might agree to her terms prior to the wedding and change narratives afterwards, and her disobedience to whatever decision the man might have against her will might lead to divorce, which she wouldn't want to experience, so to be on the safer side, she has decided to live a single life. This is for this young lady; however, different people have different reasons why they choose to remain single for life. Life is a choice, and everyone is entitled to their respective choices, provided they are something that will make them happy.
Love is a beautiful experience to behold. I have tested it, and I believed! For a wedding to happen, it's also believed that the people involved love each other. But then, what happens after a wedding? Why do people divorce after professing love to each other in public? One thing I know that are great ingredients to a healthy relationship are commitment, communication, supporting each other's dreams, saying I am sorry when you should, showing gratitude; a simple thank you goes a long way in making each other feel valuable for their little good deeds, etc. All these should be practiced by the partners and shouldn't be one-sided.
However, I have never seen a perfect marriage, but I know that some people strive to make their marriage work despite their differences. The two people involved in marriage are humans with different upbringings, different family cultures, and different views on life. This is why it takes patience, understanding, and time to blend together and build a long-lasting relationship, but it becomes difficult to achieve when you can't find the two partners being committed, or there's domestic violence, or perhaps infidelity, and some other negativities you can think of in a relationship. These are things I know that, if not managed well, can lead to divorce; however, if children are already involved, divorce is usually a step that never ends well with the kids.
In conclusion, being single means that you do not commit to anyone, and I do not see it as a bad kind of relationship, just that it has its own pros and cons; it's just a choice. However, for someone who wishes to get involved with marriage, it's wise not to overlook any red signals you notice in a man or in a woman while dating and before saying I do. I believe being intentional with our decisions while in relationships goes a long way in reducing divorce to a large extent.
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The number of couples who get divorced these days is really alarming. It makes me wonder if these people went into marriages just because of the things the society would say or because they were actually compatible with each other.
It is best for a person to think carefully before deciding what the person wants to avoid unwanted situations in the future.
Some people actually seems not to understand what they are getting into prior to marriage and it's one of the reasons why we have so much divorce cases nowadays
Thinking carefully before getting into marriage is a must my dear
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You have actually said it all momma and honestly, I do not judge people that decide to stay single for life or not have kids at all. I am sure they have their reasons and the fact that almost everyone does something doesn't make it compulsory for everyone to follow the same road.
I always see this life as a cycle because everyone just keep following pattern and it looks like a rule already. Glad some people are doing what they want to do, not necessarily what the society expects them to do.
Marriage is a whole lot and despite not being one yet, I do know this fact.
That is my dear...some people do not follow this cycle we see today and it's totally fine provided they are happy with their decisions
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It takes two people who are willing to put in the work to make a marriage work but a lot of times we find one or the two partners not willing to put in the work.
One really needs to think critically when choosing a partner for marriage in order to make the journey as lovely as possible and enjoyable.
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Yea, sometimes one partner wouldn't put in work and it becomes one sided..not always healthy for relationships
Yea, right decision before marriage is highly important
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The 100% match between two married couples is impossible. But balancing and enjoying the relationship and having the mentality to continue the relationship can be considered as love. Otherwise divorce is expected.
The lady you mentioned choose to be single is her choice but the reason still invalid. There is no guarantee of anyone that she will the survive till tomorrow then why she is thinking about career?It's because she believes that she will survive tomorrow but in case of marriage she doesn't to keep at the same mentality.
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I feel she has more reasons other than the one she said but whatever is her reason, it's still her choice and I hope she continues to be happy with it
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If I were still single, I might be single forever. I'm grateful I have 2 kids to hold on!! But when it comes to relationship with my husband, I really don't know how long it will lasts..
Hmmm, why do sound this way? Are you regretting getting into marriage in the he first place? I am sorry to ask my dear♥️
Its not that I am regretting but it is really hard to maintain the good relationship when you have a trust issue and to think we in LDR..haist!!
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Gary Chapman explained two partners coming together to make it work like someone trying to learn a different language other than his native language, it becomes difficult and takes a lot of time to learn another language but with patience, one would understand. That is how it is with relationships or marriage. Two different people are coming together with their native languages and they must be ready to learn each other's language to fully communicate and work together in their relationship to make it work and last longer.
Also, being single is a choice by an individual depending on their reasons and no one would force them. When they decide to remain single, they have their reasons and I don't think there is a problem with that. It's just that love is something beautiful that one has to experience ✨️ 💕
How interesting to know that you are learning a lot from Gary Chapman's book..that's nice. My big sis encouraged me to read a lot of marriage and relationship books before jumping into marriage
It did gave me little exposure and I wish I read more
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Yes oo. I am taking my time to reading lots of books about relationship and marriage so as to learn more.
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Divorce is not even supported in the bible yet a lot of christians are getting divorced,Yes no marriage is perfect but when they seek the advice of the person who originated it and heed to the advice they'll succeed. The originator of marriage is God, and he has provided a lot of advice for marriage mates and those who wants to get married too. And yes, staying single is also a choice but one has to think carefully if he can handle it so as not to fall into the works of flesh
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Going by Christianity, our God does not support divorce too..it's never something pleasant, yet , people go for it.... while some seek God's face to resolve their issues, some believe in doing it their own way
Staying single is really not an easy decision and one should think it through before taking such decision
Marriage is sacred, one should have the right mindset before saying I do to avoid unnecessary problems in marriage.
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One thing I dread about marriage is that one may be perfect, one may not do anything wrong, and yet, the marriage will still hit the rocks.
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Well, you can't get a perfect marriage.. just work on your individual differences
That's the point. Work on differences and hope for the best.
Love, marriage and divorce.. These three are indeed a complicated something..lol
I believe what ever happens still revolves around the couple involves.
For the singles, i think it truly should be a strong will that would make one single, i mean without flirting for the rest of their lives.
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