I didn't like how she always sought attention and tried to be the center of every scene. It grated on me so badly that I blurted out my thoughts and called her out for her behavior in front of everyone. And there was silence...
I joined the teen church choir so I could learn how to play the acoustic guitar. I wanted to learn from the church's guitarist and pianist, who both happened to be brothers, and they suggested that coming around on Saturdays would be much more convenient for them and me to hold the lessons every week, and that simply meant joining the choir anyway.
As I had zero musical skill, I did nothing most of the time and just hung around. I think I tried to sing a few times, but that never really went well for me. I was horrible at singing then. And having a conservative personality, I mostly never spoke much and just observed.
I made friends somehow, and so after rehearsals on Saturdays and church services on Sundays, we'd all walk home together. Actually, most of us going the same way would just move together, take the same routes, and eventually part ways to our various homes.
I wasn't the last to join the choir, and so people joined after I did, and there was this particular girl. She was pretty, and so that brought her a lot of attention. A lot of the guys wanted her attention, but more interestingly, she was also seeking attention and enjoying what she was getting.
Being friendly and approachable is a good interpersonal relationship skill, but it was on a whole different level. It was very appalling to see how she moved from one guy to another, obviously seeking attention, and even being lousy in her demeanor.
She'd say things that I would consider embarrassing if they came from me. I mean, she was basically annoying, and I wasn't the only one that thought so, but everyone just always minded their business. I, on the other hand, wasn't having any of that.
In my mind, I always thought, "Why do you always try to be the center of attraction for everything and even be so annoying?"
Now, at that time, which was many years ago, I was often very expressive with my feelings and hardly ever concealed them. It's much different now, but back then, I usually said what was on my mind.
So one faithful day, we had just finished one of our regular Saturday rehearsals and were on our way home together, as we often did. Miss Celebrity was at it again, but this time on level 100. I could just take it...
I was right behind everyone as we were walking, right beside my friend, and I just said to her."
"Do you always have to be lousy, annoying, and jump from guy to guy?"
Everyone was surprised. They all knew it was true. Some tried to conceal their laughter, but they were all mostly quiet. She was the most shocked, but she couldn't say anything. And then we all just continued walking, like it almost didn't happen.
But then I immediately regretted saying it out loud. It was none of my business and not in my place to do something like that, especially when she wasn't even interacting with me. My friend told me that I was right, but that I probably shouldn't have said it out loud in front of everyone.
Was she any different after that evening? I don't remember. I didn't care anyway and mostly wanted to mind my business moving forward. I never apologized, though. I could have, but I didn't think it was necessary at that time. What I cared about was not repeating such a mistake.
"Have you ever been in a situation where you said something that you instantly wished you could take back the moment you said it, whether or not you eventually apologized for it?" You may want to check out this week's prompts in Hive Naija for some gem writing prompts."
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Bro! I feel that! I honestly feel embarrassed for her but if I had been in your shoes and said that out loud, I don’t think I’d have been able to forgive myself. I don’t know why despite the fact that she had such attitude, I felt bad that you called her out like that.
Most times, such behavior is a response to environment and sometimes trauma. We never know. When I meet people like that these days I just ignore them because I won’t be able to swallow the guilt.
And that part about being more concerned with moving on, I feel you too. I make mistakes and I’m just concerned with trying to forget it. 😂
Not been able to forgive myself ke? When I didn't kill someone. It was a mistake, although the truth, and I learned from it. You're right, though. She could have been deeply hurt by it, and maybe even traumatised for a long time. I didn't think it could do that to her, but people are different, you know.
lol. You’re different.
You are a good story teller, see how glued I was from start to finish, well we all have said something we wished we could take back, the truth is we learn from our mistake, just like you did, never to repeat it.
I'm glad you enjoyed this one. We all hope to be better. Thank you, Amie.
I know you feel like it wasn't your place and you shouldn't have said what you did to the missus but she was constituting a nuisance which you didn't like.
Sometimes we need to speak out when a nuisance is spreading itself like a plague.
Yes, I didn't like it one bit. And she needed to rest...
Lol, I understand
Na your picture dey sha enter my eye 😜
You too fine mbòk
Heh...
Interestingly, it's an old photo, but thank you.
You look so handsome Jay ❤️.
That serves her right 😂😂, just from how you sound on this post, I can tell that she's super annoying 😂
Super annoying that I could remember after so many years...
Thank you, Meya
Most times some people need to be told the truth, mostly people like miss annoying.
Indeed, and that truth can also be said in empathetic ways.
As a girl
I felt her how embarrassed she might have been even tho I was present .
It annoying anyways but you would have rather not said it out loud .
And yes I have been in such situations but said a horrible thing to someone which was true outta anger
Wish I never said such till date .