I felt disappointed! This is a common statement we hear people say when they experience the feeling of disappointment. It hurts more when it's coming from someone you trust so much or love, or have invested your time, emotions, energy, and resources into building a common goal together, and at the end, have your hope turned upside down. I have my own fair share of this similar experience, but I will choose to tell you about a situation where I disappointed my brother for a good purpose, and it turned out well for him instead. Maybe you are curious to know what I did intentionally?
The first statement I used in the first paragraph of this post was exactly what my immediate elder brother said to me when he called to confront me over information I disclosed to my other siblings, which he said I shouldn't let them know what's happening to him. I was even surprised he said that to me because after he confided in me about the disaster he has been going through, I told him that I can't keep such information secret because it's too sensitive to his life and urgent action needs to be taken for his own good, and also, I don't have enough wisdom to really assist him properly considering the depth of the issue. However, he warned me not to try telling our siblings that he wouldn't want any of them to call him about it.
After one week, hearing how his health was getting bad as a result of emotional trauma he had been suffering over the issue, he confided in me, I was forced to create a separate family WhatsApp group and carefully disclosed the detailed information to my siblings. In fact, they blamed me for not telling them on time and would have held me responsible if anything bad happened to him. Like, why should I know what our blood is going through and keep mute? My big brother slashed me!
My twin brother and my big brother called him immediately over the issue, expressed themselves to him, and gave him ideas on how to go about the issue. At first, he felt so bad and kind of ashamed that everyone at home now knows what is happening. The way he spoke to me over the phone was really unpleasant but I choose to relate to his feelings. He gave me no room to explain why I disclosed the information but kept shouting that he was disappointed in me and wouldn't tell me anything concerning his life anymore. Before I could say a word, he hung up on me.
However, within a few days, he called me back to apologize for his actions towards me and gave me an update on how our eldest brother assisted him greatly over the issue and how there is lots of progress already. He now feels a bit relieved and could even sleep at night.In my words, I told him, when friends and colleagues leave you, your family will always stand by you till the end of your predicament, so hiding your challenges from your family should be a no-no.
Overall, it's a good disappointment from me to him, seeing how things are unfolding for the better. His mental health also seems to improve after my siblings came into the matter, providing emotional support and encouragement.
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Sometimes people don't choose to talk either because of shame, stigma or maybe they feel nobody will help them anyway. In my case I choose to keep my issues to myself because people will pity you, stigmatize you and end up not helping anyways.
Yea, shame and stigmatization are part of the reasons why people don't like opening up, but in this case, we are talking about opening up to his siblings, his blood, not strangers... really, his decision on that didn't seat well with me
But then, I understand your own case
I am sure you weighed the options and decided to tell the family because you were focusing on what might be best for your brother. It is never easy to break a trust. However, exceptions can be made in close knit families like yours - when it is a sensitive family situation. It is good that he apologised and forgave you.
Yea, I found it difficult to break the trust regardless of how important it was for me to break it... good enough, he realized that I only meant well for him and apologized
In some situations, it's better to break trust and do what's right. Atleast after everything he realized that what you did was for his own good.
Exactly, it doesn't make any meaning keeping an information that could turn out disastrous. I am glad he realized that i.meant well for him
I think you did nothing wrong. It would be wrong if you hide the truth from your other family members. Family member deserve to know the truth. So, it's ok sometimes breaking promise if the reason is reasonable.
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Yea..if the promise is reasonable, it's better to break it and save a life that keeping the truth away
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This was a good disappointment to both of you. Sometimes, it feels like we shouldn't share our burdens with others especially our family members. We delude ourselves by thinking that we raw protecting them but the opposite is the case.
A problem shared is one that is already half solved
Yesoo ..at least my family should be the people I trust enough to disclose certain burden to , regardless
Yes
Wow, I fell in love with how you come to highlight the importance of family support. You deciding to involve your siblings might have been tough, but it shows it was for the best.
Thanks for sharing.
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Yea...it was for the best . Family support is everything, especially for something you don't want outsiders to know about
Exactly.
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The truth about disappointment is that it mostly comes from the people that we trust.
Thanks for sharing m
Indeed!
I like as you didn't listen to him especially when you know that you don't have the solution to his problem. Now his healthy because of your quick action
My dear..glad I didn't listen to him, sometimes it's good to use our discretion
Disappointment can be so hurt, most especially the one from our loved ones
Yes, it is...but it's also inevitable
Yes ooo
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