@rok-sivante - the self does not exist until that which does not exist takes the effort of will to define itself. This is a boundariless decision to be alive. To accept a boundary from another as your own can only ever be used as a crutch, and if it ever becomes a long-term dependency, it is not the 'self' you have 'found' but another illusion.
The self can only be known to the self alone.
This is the core of my skepticism to also the Human Design model and method.
I'm sure others have seen this in Desteni as well. And many came away from Desteni. It must be made known to the searching individual that all self-definition must be done by the self.
This 7 year process that you both have, should only be undertaken by the self for the self as the self. A process defined by the self, not by another. Sometimes things work as maps, we are the blind leading the blind after all.
But we must always come back to the sovereignty of our self - in shameless defense of our auto-definition.