After reading the question of the week, I took some time to allow the question to sink into my mind. As I did so, I kept thinking about how there are times that no matter how many words I use to convey my message to others, those words fall on deaf ears.
So why does that happen? I call it selective hearing. People hear what they want to hear except when it causes them discomfort, such as when they don't agree with you or they are just not interested in the subject, or their predetermined opinion blocks any new ideas.
There are times when our own words cause the deafness in others.
No one likes a blabber mouth. Anyone who just keeps talking for the sake of hearing themselves, misses the whole point of communicating with speech. Conversation is meant to be shared with a back and forth of words and ideas. To have any meaningful communication , there must be an exchange of words, each person must get a chance to speak, while others listen.
It's quite often not the case, especially if there are emotions attached to the subject at hand. I think that's why smart people steer clear of religion and politics. Just too personal.
That being said, I find body language much more effective in certain instances. Here are a few examples:
Hearing about the birth of a baby, you smile, clap your hands, give a hug. Your message comes through loud and clear. You are happy for them.
Hearing that your friend is getting a divorce , you frown, squeeze their shoulder, or give a gentle rub on their back or cheek. Your friend knows you feel for them, trying to reassure them or just giving support.
Noticing your mate is in pain. A gentle touch can convey the message that you see their discomfort and wish it was better.
Observing a person with slumped shoulders who drags their feet, no bounce at all in their step. Your think, not good. Maybe they are lonely, depressed, have lost their mate. Just a smile or a tip of your hat may send the message that things can be brighter, if only for the moment.
Hearing someone shout, swear, slam a door , must be pissed about something. The simple act of turning your back and walking away sends a clear message that you don't want any part of that hot mess, whatever the reason for those actions.
Then there's the flip side, taking a walk with a person you love, reaching out for their hand as you stroll silently together sharing a sense of caring for each other.
Being in love, body language at it's best. A kiss, a hug, a giggle, a squeeze on the neck, a soft caress on the cheek, a playful pinch on the backside . All these actions convey one clear message. Intimacy.
Communication without a single word.
MMmmmm. lovely ending..
for the rest.. it is strange isnt it.. and for me at least it seems to have gotten MUCH worse.. no matter HOW clear i am.. the filters are very strong!
I think the solution might be repetition! If we hear something around 10 times it may start to sink in.. and a tap on the shoulder as you say it wont go a miss!:)
yeah if ONLY were were all psychic! that was once a question of the week many moons ago..
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Hello @eco-alex. I am convinced people are much more closed off to hearing others these days than ever before. It seems there's less trust also. There are many factors that contribute to this distrust, politics, news media, social media just to name a few. I find myself wishing for things in my past , it was so much simpler then. Technology is great, until it's not.
Stay well, best of luck with all your endeavors.
im glad its not just me.. its reached epidemic levels! emotions oh emotions!
thanks for the well wishes.. its going GOOD.ç. im just on the last stages or rigging this solar power system up.. panels are In now and im hoping to see some power today!! so exciting
Wow that's progress, hope the sun shines for you!
Haha hot mess! Well described!
I was talking with my better half about how I hate when people throw empty, cardboard 'luv ya' at the end of every phone conversation, wait for the hollow echo of that sentiment and then do nothing to really show love. Superficial notions with no real meaning. So sad.
Communication without a single word is the true meaning of love as you pointed out.
Awsome!
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