T celebrate your insight ma'am. Indeed, choosing to be careful with whom we chose to love is highly important. I also don't want to sleep with one eye open because the one I choose to love is a loose cannon that can explode at any time.
I Value my life and want to live it to the fullest. If and when I hit the grave, it should be out of a fulfilled long life and not a premature set back caused by blind love.
Also, being careful covers the lineage you are going to breed. I find it funny to see ladies stay in toxic relationships and cling to a man for some petty love and even use the kids as an excuse forgetting that these kids will be indoctrinated in such lifestyle and grow up to display far worse than their predecessor.
It's high time we take a stand, not just for ourselves but for our future.