Feminism and Us in 2025: Are We Missing the Point?

[chris-chris92]

Source

All I remember from the early 2000s was how Samantha Jones could never walk into a room without half the world calling her a disgrace. She was outspoken sexual free and unapologetic and somehow that made her dangerous to other women as much as to men. Meanwhile Carrie Bradshaw neurotic sentimental a bit vain seemed safe acceptable the kind of freedom that could be approved. The contrast felt like a map for what women were allowed to be and who we were permitted to judge. I look back and realize that this policing of each other began quietly and elegantly through whispers looks and thinly veiled advice more than through any overt rule.

Between then and now we were supposed to evolve. We read essays marched created hashtags and declared solidarity and yet so much of our energy turned inward. Women criticized other women for being too ambitious too sexual too quiet too visible. We dissected bodies and choices making morality a metric we could control. Beauty became a weapon for envy and a standard for exclusion. Gossip thrived as the natural currency and compassion often disappeared in the calculus of judgment. We learned to enforce a hierarchy among ourselves more efficiently than any outsider could impose it.

Source

Carrie and Samantha were never the real argument they were metaphors for the contradictions of freedom under scrutiny. J K Rowling became another mirror in our times using anatomy as a measure of authenticity and drawing lines where empathy should have been. I see this dynamic every day when women whisper about the body the hairstyle the partner the ambition of another woman as if observing closely could somehow render the world fair. Infidelity is often blamed on the woman even when circumstances are complex and the man unexamined. We cultivate blame instead of clarity because it is easier to punish a known body than to untangle messy truths.

Deep down feminism was supposed to be a promise of liberation not a tribunal for conformity. We forgot that solidarity was more than slogans it was practice. Letting another woman be messy contradictory flawed ambitious beautiful messy human requires courage and generosity. I think about the casual cruelty we normalize the selective compassion the way we elevate some lives and diminish others. The movement was meant to teach empathy and critical thinking and instead sometimes it teaches envy control and judgment that is more rigid than any law.

Source

Eventually we must face ourselves and the networks we inhabit. Our culture reflects progress intellect and achievement but also hypocrisy insecurity and exhaustion. I do not believe we have failed but I see how far we have drifted from the original ideals. Feminism became a public brand a polite discourse a performance in which we lost the texture of human connection. Perhaps the task now is not to redefine it yet again but to return to the practice of empathy to stop punishing each other for differences and to recognize that freedom was never meant to be uniform only to allow us all to exist fully.

Comments

[ladiesofhive]

^!LADY

[ladytoken]

^{View or trade LOH tokens.}

@ladiesofhive, you successfully shared 0.1000 LOH with @chris-chris92 and you earned 0.1000 LOH as tips. (2/50 calls)

Use !LADY command to share LOH! More details available in this post.