One big decision I made recently that truly changes my life was deciding that I won't let anyone play with my emotions again. It didn't come from a place of anger but from exhaustion. I was tired of being the one that forgives easily, trusts too fast, and gives too much of myself to people who don't value me the same way. I got to a point where I told myself, You can't keep doing
this.
So I chose myself; it wasn't easy. I doubted myself if I could do it, but I found myself doing it. Am someone who likes people deeply, and for that reason, I used to let people come in and out of my life as they wanted. I always make excuses for their actions and inactions. Not only that, and I do convinced myself that the more I cared, they would change and notice me. But caring without any boundaries only left me drained and disappointed.
I love this decision so much; it has changed the way I move. I now pay close attention to how people treat me and not just what they say. Furthermore, I don't fight for space in anyone's life anymore. If you want to be in my life, whether as a friend or relative, your actions will show me. I don't force connection or entertain inconsistency anymore. My peace of mind comes first, and I protect my heart with everything.
I have a friend whose wedding is coming up, but I might not be attending. Because how can you call yourself my friend and you don't know where I live? If I don't call you, you won't call. You are preparing for your wedding, and you won't carry me along because your reason is that I didn't call you to ask you what I can do for you. But you call every other person and tell them what you want them to do. I ended the friendship and told her not to come for mine too. Now I am the bad person for not wanting to be treated like an option anymore.
Since I made the decision, I feel lighter, almost like I finally took a breath after holding it in for a long time. I have learned to walk away from anything that confuses me. I find out that choosing myself first is not selfishness but self-respect. Furthermore, I'm learning to choose clarity over chaos. Honestly, it feels so good, understanding my worth and stop giving people permission to hurt me.
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Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s healing. Keep protecting your peace and honoring your worth.